Online girlfriend (whom I just met this weekend) drastically misrepresented how she looks. Next steps?

Girls do this all the time. It is deception and many of them have mastered it. She knows exactly what she is doing when she takes and posts a pic. Face shots only from a high angle makes your face appear slim.

Why are you on Craigslist? Get on Tinder. You will still have this issue happen again but that is the game.

My advice - only talk to girls that post full body pictures AND put the date on it. I girl will do this is she is not trying to be deceptive.

I would ditch ****. She is a deceptive person.

Eh, what the heck wrote:

What should I do?

Not her. You're heading for the double deuce if you go down that road.

You WILL grow to love that big body. 6 months from now you will be addicted to her belly and big upper legs. Trust me.

Im serious.

That she misrepresented herself is not very nice but she was probably afraid that you wouldn't give her a chance. But if you can see past that, I would say to give it a chance.

160? More cushion for the pushin'

160 is not "pretty fat" since the average weight for an American woman is 166.2 pounds (in 2010). It 1960, it was 140lbs.

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/obesity-overweight.htm

Dude, I think you have the right idea about staying with her and gaining experience. You caught a tough break but that's what happens a lot in this era of online dating. Online dating doesn't really have much stigma anymore, though, so with a few more visits you can tally this up as a legitimate girlfriend...which is important to other women. A woman will be turned off if you haven't had a girlfriend in the past. And you do sound like you need practice on all fronts as it is.

My suggestion would be to remain "with" this girl but play the field in your hometown--she needn't know you're looking elsewhere. Hell, SHE is looking elsewhere too; you're a self-admitted loser, after all. If you two have talked as much as you have there must be some things you like about her anyway.

Keep up to date with this girl but start looking around. Find other ways to meet women. Craigslist is such a strange way to meet a girl.

The Double Deuce wrote:

Eh, what the heck wrote:

What should I do?

Not her. You're heading for the double deuce if you go down that road.

Agreed. Perhaps even a double deuce and a half.

I'm sure she will say it is all about "personality" and not appearance. Listen to the sage advice in this thread. And when all else fails, "if it smells like a pier, steer clear!"

Yeah, but she is only 5.3 ;) That's quite alot of cushion. If the OP runs in Asics Nimbus or Hoka's Im sure he will grow to love this girls body.

Nothing like brewing that first cup of coffee in the morning and stumbling across some fresh troll material in the AM. Nicely done, OP.

On the off chance you're legit, stay with her and encourage her to exercise. I've done a lot more than buy a plane ticket to get some.

Do you like being with her?

Quiz Show Champ wrote:

Nothing like brewing that first cup of coffee in the morning and stumbling across some fresh troll material in the AM. Nicely done, OP.

On the off chance you're legit, stay with her and encourage her to exercise. I've done a lot more than buy a plane ticket to get some.

Agreed. Decent showing by the OP. Still, he sounds like a piece of sh*t, whether his story is legit or not.

Ted Underhill wrote:

Do you like being with her?

Just the first 130 pounds.

Look at this like an investment. Cute face, you say? Great, get her to work out. Don't just encourage her to work out. Tell her straight up you want her to lose some weight. She got on a plane to go see a loser. She's desperate. Maybe this will be the kick in the rear she needs to actually make something of herself. And if it works out you could end up with an attractive woman. Of course the other side of the coin is that as soon as she gets interest from other men, she'll drop you. But you can take that chance.

Ted Underhill wrote:

Do you like being with her?

funny that the OP didn't even answer this

I'm an average looking guy - I've had a few beautiful girlfriends. But you know what? in the end the looks are in around 5th place. My best girlfriend experiences have been with not so great looking women who were genuinely smart and funny and kind and generous.

So if you like her, then see her again. if you don't like her, then don't see her again. But be a grownup and decide on her as a person, not just what she looks like.

or that you'd feel embarassed having a large girlfriend.

Seriously man - use this as a step to growing up.

Tell her you would like to get back together at her place in a few weeks. Find a local 5k race there and tell her you would like to run it with her because you like to run races in new places. Challenge her to train for it. If she makes an effort and loses a little weight you may have a keeper. You might turn her onto a world of healthy living she hasn't been exposed to before. Worked with my wife.

Fat people can lose weight. Stupid people can not get smarter. Old people can not get younger. Ugly people can not get better looking.

i live under a bridge wrote:

Tell her you would like to get back together at her place in a few weeks. Find a local 5k race there and tell her you would like to run it with her because you like to run races in new places. Challenge her to train for it. If she makes an effort and loses a little weight you may have a keeper. You might turn her onto a world of healthy living she hasn't been exposed to before. Worked with my wife.

sounds fat, but the question is does she want to get skinnier. The race idea is great! I know some guys legitimately do like women who are larger than they are (I don't get it).... but assuming you want a smaller gal, see if she'll try. If she ever really was 130 then that might motivate her to get back there.

Good point about give it a try for a bit anyway... a few dates with someone you aren't super worried about impressing will make you more comfortable on future dates with gals you really do want to impress.

Did you bang her?

The problem is that you spent 5 months "getting involved" and attached to a woman you had never met. Don't do that.

You fell for one of the newest 3 card tricks in the e-book (although I suspect like others that this is a troll post - still it's a common situation out there just now so let's run with it).

Reality is that online profiles are 2 dimensional when you really need to see a person in 4-D to make a fully informed decision. Yes, seeing them in space-time is important as you learn about how they carry themself etc talk, personality, smile, subtle features, gestures.

So females (and a lot of guys too) will naturally put up a picture in which they feel they look their best. So in case of fat chicks, this involves just a head shot or a picture with a very weird angle. A massively large lady in my office put an online pic of just a head shot and she lured in a poor unsuspecting guy - don't think it worked out. These pics must be treated with complete suspicion unless they are prepared to send on a few more snaps of them in different positions.

C-list is notoriously bad for dating so be thankful you managed to even meet with a woman at all. Try going old school to meet ladies or if you go online, then make sure to look out in future for this classic trap.

For now, your situation is a pair of suited connectors (thinking a 5-6 of clubs) so ask yourself this classic question:

DO YOU FEEL LUCKY PUNK? WELL DO YOU?