fds wrote:
I would have put up with anything..
And it would not have been a problem
If she would have said jump, I would have said How high?
But she never would have given me that crap.
She died 1/15/14
Now, Im a season ticket holder in 3 different sports, hang out at the stadiums and eating places all over my city and am a member of a great running club.
I'd run, yep....RUN back to that small town of 1000 with nothing but basketball and 4-H fairs...If I woke up from the nightmare to find she was back in that house.
I am really sorry man. Really sorry.
In case the OP is not a troll, I have been married for 14 years and I have three kids. One of the best things about my wife is that she is about as blunt as a billy club when it comes to letting me know what I am doing wrong. So I know exactly what she doesn't like. I don't think she could be passive-aggressive if she tried. I always know where I stand and I pick my battles.
She is a great mother, but she spends a lot. I know that I prefer that to the alternative. I deal with a bit of PNSO, but it isn't as bad as that thread purported it to be. She is usually tired at the end of the day and I don't blame her. On the weekends I take her out on dates or with friends, and I find that I am more likely to avoid the PNSO on those nights, purely because she feels pretty and social and romantic. I am cool with that.
I think the answer is to be as empathetic as possible. If I am pissed off at my wife, I will usually take some alone time (a run or take the kids somewhere) and think about things from her point of view. If I still think she is wrong, i will return to the house and present my POV in a calm manner.
We fight, but never in a mean or spiteful way. Typically we have a fight and we apologize to each other a few minutes later.
I think the key is empathy.