Do I give up on this gal?

What happened to break you up before? did you dump her or did She dump you?

The latter. Simply said feelings were lost

Yes. Any women that inspires you to refer to her as a "gal" is begging to be given up on.

Cut her loose. Don't even be friends man. Its for the best

Man up and tell her you find her attractive and would like to see where it goes.

Yes. You have a good time.

No. You move on no hesitation. Literally, say cool and move on immediately.

Pics?

Sounds like she would make a good "Friend with benefits".

Start by focus on making yourself more marketable. Not just for her but all ladies and for yourself. Get busy on your advancement in many areas. Don't let people believe they got you if they want at any time. Not saying you play a game, I'm suggesting you really do advance yourself academically, training, networking, physical appearance, economically etc. I knew my one girlfriend was shooting for the heavens in all ways, I figured worst case she would fall among the stars. She sure did become a star and I made sure I married her!

Honestly, seems like she's using you as what we call an FBF or a faux boyfriend. She's getting her 'companionship' from you but doesn't like you/respect you/want you enough to take it to the next level. I'm guessing she'll start distancing herself once she meets a guy she likes.

Most likely she doesn't even realize she's doing this. I'm sure she genuinely likes your company, just not enough to pursue it any further. It keeps girls (and guys too) from feeling lonely.

I'd say slowly move on and start dating. It'll help you see things more clearly.

Did you date anyone in the year in between?

Did she date anyone in the year in between?

If both of you haven't dated anyone else in the last year, she is a perfect storm for FWB as long as you realize and can live with the FACT that you will NEVER be a couple again.

If only you have dated someone, my guess is FWB but we need pics to be sure.

If only she has dated someone and has come back, you have a shot.

If both of you have, again, you have a shot.

The Donger wrote:

Man up and tell her you find her attractive and would like to see where it goes.

Yes. You have a good time.

No. You move on no hesitation. Literally, say cool and move on immediately.

This. Do it in a place where you can leave if the answer is no. And then leave if the answer is no. Leave. Feel disappointment, deal with it somewhere else.

DO NOT sit in the friend zone. Your desires are not hers and that will mess with your head more than you are probably willing to admit.

Dude you are totally effing screwed man. Just end it and find another girl. Go physical from the gun, or don't go at all.

Sloop out

What are your PRs? Dont care about this slut. Just wanna know your stats

Women weaken legs

Start being unavailable to her. Make plans and then cancel. Be very apologetic but slightly mysterious. Have a friend call you when you're with the girl and act like it's another girl. Tell "the girl" that you can't talk right now but will call back later. Smile as you say it. You want her to think that you have other options besides her. If you do have other options, exercise them! Make sure she knows it.

Yeah it's game-playing, but the quickest way to get someone to show interest is to withdraw. If she's interested, she'll show it quick. If nothing happens, cut her loose and don't be "friends."

Requester of pics wrote:

Pics?

This ^

Pics or this entire thread is worthless.

Go west young man wrote:

Start being unavailable to her. Make plans and then cancel. Be very apologetic but slightly mysterious. Have a friend call you when you're with the girl and act like it's another girl. Tell "the girl" that you can't talk right now but will call back later. Smile as you say it. You want her to think that you have other options besides her. If you do have other options, exercise them! Make sure she knows it.

Yeah it's game-playing, but the quickest way to get someone to show interest is to withdraw. If she's interested, she'll show it quick. If nothing happens, cut her loose and don't be "friends."

I think I'll go with Go west young man's plan

Updates to come

Mismo wrote:

Go west young man wrote:

Start being unavailable to her. Make plans and then cancel. Be very apologetic but slightly mysterious. Have a friend call you when you're with the girl and act like it's another girl. Tell "the girl" that you can't talk right now but will call back later. Smile as you say it. You want her to think that you have other options besides her. If you do have other options, exercise them! Make sure she knows it.

Yeah it's game-playing, but the quickest way to get someone to show interest is to withdraw. If she's interested, she'll show it quick. If nothing happens, cut her loose and don't be "friends."

I think I'll go with Go west young man's plan

Updates to come

Don't do that. Just be upfront and honest with her. Tell her how you feel, that you're looking for more than friendship.

If she says she's not interested in more, then you can either keep going along as is and respect her boundaries or let her know that you can't keep up a genuine friendship without having feelings for her and cut the cord. It'll be painful, but the sea is full of available and wonderful fish.

Be forthright wrote:

Mismo wrote:

I think I'll go with Go west young man's plan

Updates to come

Don't do that. Just be upfront and honest with her. Tell her how you feel, that you're looking for more than friendship.

If she says she's not interested in more, then you can either keep going along as is and respect her boundaries or let her know that you can't keep up a genuine friendship without having feelings for her and cut the cord. It'll be painful, but the sea is full of available and wonderful fish.

Eventually it'll come to the point where I'm up front and honest. Just trying to gauge exactly where she's at with Go west young's plan