Thoughts on Thank you card to Girlfriend's Parents

That sounds really weird

Yes, absolutely send them a thank you card. Don't go overboard with what you write, but they'll appreciate a simple "thank you for your hospitality." Look at it this way: sending it can't hurt you. If you don't send anything and they are the type that expect that sort of gesture, you lose major points in their eyes.

Agree, send them a thank you note and include one or two pictures of the weekend. It's a nice gesture. Next time bring wine.

DD_runner wrote:

So this Thanksgiving I just met my girlfriend's parents and stayed at their place. was there for a few days, eating their food, watching their tv, etc. They took me out to dinner and stuff too which was pretty nice.

Anyways, now that we are back at school I figured it might be classy to send them a thank you card. However, I'm having second thoughts about it.

Thoughts letsrun community?

This sort of thing was commonplace, once, as part of good manners. Send them a simple thank-you card, and, if your girlfriend dumps you, you will have prepared your revenge in advance as her mother will ask her about the "boyfriend with manners" for years.

Send a thank you card. If you guys break up, years down the road your girlfriends parents will still be talking about that polite college guy who said thank you and took the time to send a card. if you end up staying with her, it will pay off in spades down the road.

Yup, agree with the others above. My boyfriend does this and my parents LOVE him for it (while my sisters' now-husbands took a lot longer to be appreciated)

Send a card. A simple one thanking them for their hospitality and saying how much you enjoyed the time spent with everyone. There is absolutely no downside to doing this and plenty of upside.

I'll chime in to add yet another piece of good advice.

Doesn't need to be long or detailed. Just a quick thank you with a few kind words.

I send Thank You notes to people and they never fail to get a positive response. I think the fact that you realize that you should send a thank you note speaks highly of you and your parents. Go ahead and take action on it.

I get hand written notes from people on occasion and it is one of the coolest things in the world. My parents always made me write thank you notes and I am glad they did.

FWIW, I am 36.

I would send a thank you card at the least. You should probably throw in some pecans or something like that

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I would send a thank you card at the least. You should probably throw in some pecans or something like that

I'd go with pistachios - pecans send the wrong message, but only include the nuts if the GF put out over the weekend.

Yeah for sure send on a thank you card as they will appreciate it. Nothing over the top at this stage but just something solid to show that you enjoyed their company and hospitality.

Unless the dad went all Robert De Niro and asked you to keep it in the cage in which case you send him a joke box with a big pop up fist in it!

Take that you raging bull, you talking to me you filthy animal!

vroom wrote:

Agree, send them a thank you note and include one or two pictures of the weekend. It's a nice gesture. Next time bring wine.

Yep, if they invite you again bring a bottle of wine, or box of candy, or flowers, etc. They will think you're pure gold. Never hurts!

DD_runner wrote: Anyways, now that we are back at school I figured it might be classy to send them a thank you card. However, I'm having second thoughts about it.

First of all, using the outdated term "classy" is basically an indicator that you have no, umm, class. This would make one worry that anything you write in a note of appreciation might, likewise, lack the quality with which you wish to convey your message. Be very careful, thoughtful and conservative in your communication.

But, yes, you are right in questioning your own intentions. Aside from the common acts of hospitality they displayed, did you girlfriend's parents go the extra mile? Meaning, were you and your girlfriend allowed to sleep in the same bed? When you awoke in the morning, did her dad give you a knowing "nudge...nudge...wink...wink" and ask how you slept? Did her mom give you a sly grin and suggest that you both were probably hungry enough to devour a mountain of pancakes?

Only send a letter if your gf rubbed you off during the Thanksgiving feast, a la Wedding Crashers.