unique date ideas for two introverts

date help wrote:

maybe some date ideas that playfully force more interaction like trivia or something. both in late 20s

looking for recommendations

thanks,

Alex.

How about a few rounds of "I Never..."?

Why does it need to be unique? Are you too good for the standard date ideas that worked for everyone else?

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date help wrote:

maybe some date ideas that playfully force more interaction like trivia or something. both in late 20s.

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I'm an introvert. Take her to dinner and make yourself have a conversation with her. Try to find out about who she is/what makes her tick and be open to letting her know about you as well.

Sorry, man, I know conversation can be uncomfortable for our personality type, especially in an extended situation, but you've got to do it. The other stuff just wastes time without you getting to know her much. Upside to my idea: if she is not a good match for you, you will find out early and spare yourself (and her) some grief.

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Text each other across a table.

introverted dude wrote:

I'm an introvert. Take her to dinner and make yourself have a conversation with her. Try to find out about who she is/what makes her tick and be open to letting her know about you as well.

Sorry, man, I know conversation can be uncomfortable for our personality type, especially in an extended situation, but you've got to do it. The other stuff just wastes time without you getting to know her much. Upside to my idea: if she is not a good match for you, you will find out early and spare yourself (and her) some grief.

Thanks, but I'm far too introverted to date an actual woman. But I met this nice guy at work and would like to give it a chance.

Thanks fir some of these suggestions.

Trivia is a good idea.

How about a trip to a big bookstore? Museum? Farmer's Market? Botanical Garden? Paddle boats? Even a walk with lots of window shopping, stopping for ice cream, etc. could be fun.

I always find "action" dates (not laser tag), but simply doing something while on the date versus the "interrogation of dinner" (i.e. sitting across from each other making idle chatter).

Even a play could be a good idea (and much better/more classy than a movie). There's always tons of cheap & small theaters putting on plays in towns.

My first date with my girlfriend was an evening walk (she was new to town), then ate sushi, then because we were enjoying ourselves, we went for a pint. Nice evening & that was nearly 5 years ago.

But, I felt the walk allowed us to talk, get distracted by things in the store windows, explore the town, & "burn off" that nervous energy of the first date. By the time we ate, we felt comfortable with each other. And, with the pleasure of the first date, we wanted to spend more time together & went for those drinks.

Good luck!

Not a Matchmaker wrote:

My first date with my girlfriend was an evening walk (she was new to town), then ate sushi, then because we were enjoying ourselves, we went for a pint. Nice evening & that was nearly 5 years ago.

But, I felt the walk allowed us to talk, get distracted by things in the store windows, explore the town, & "burn off" that nervous energy of the first date. By the time we ate, we felt comfortable with each other. And, with the pleasure of the first date, we wanted to spend more time together & went for those drinks.

Good luck!

Great stuff

Not a Matchmaker wrote:

I always find "action" dates (not laser tag), but simply doing something while on the date versus the "interrogation of dinner" (i.e. sitting across from each other making idle chatter).

I can't believe you didn't like my laser tag idea! :D

Op: watch the movie hitch. The whole premise of the movie is a matchmaker helping awkward people make a connection. A number of the suggestions happened to be in that movie.

You could do one date after another straight from that movie: jet skiing, tracking down the ellis island paperwork from her long lost murderous ancestor, etc.

Why not just do movies and the like until you're comfortable enough around each other to open up? There's nothing an introvert finds more uncomfortable than being forced into interactions before they're ready. If you're truly an introvert, you might understand this.

Well, at some point you are going to need to talk to one another so why not start with that. Maybe go to a wine tasting and let a bit of alcohol help. Have some fun, laugh about being introverts.

shut up fake Hingle.I used to post as Hingle McCringleberry.The answer is to sit in a small room and smell each others farts.

Hingle McCringleberry wrote:

Why does it need to be unique? Are you too good for the standard date ideas that worked for everyone else?

introverts are not ones that dislike groups,

introverts are merely those who GET their energy from quiet spaces or meditation in order to GIVE their energy in large spaces, with many people.

So, go dancing, but before/after dancing have a quiet intimate dinner to balance the energy.

Honestly, if you've known someone for more than 5 minutes and you're struggling to have a conversation, you two probably aren't very good for one another. In every good relationship I've evI've been ery been in, it has been obvious that we're really compatible in the first minute. Then there have been the times when

Keep fishing. Don't think you've found the one just because he/she is willing to be in the same room as you.

Mr E wrote:

Honestly, if you've known someone for more than 5 minutes and you're struggling to have a conversation, you two probably aren't very good for one another. In every good relationship I've ever been in, it has been obvious that we're really compatible in the first minute.

Keep fishing. Don't think you've found the one just because he/she is willing to be in the same room as you.

Fell asleep while writing that, I guess. Corrected above.

On second thought wrote:

date help wrote:

please dont hijack my thread

I think that was an honest suggestion for date activity.

getting together and masturbating might lead to dancing

Grab some coffee/ice cream and go for a walk on the beach. Keep it simple. Or cook her dinner on the beach in a firepit and watch the sun go down. Women go crazy for that. For more date ideas check out this resource - https://www.maanly.com/things-to-do-with-your-girlfriend/ . So many cool ideas there