My girlfriend think we spend too little time together

Can't answer without seeing her pics.

I understand where you're coming from and as much as you two care about one another it sounds like an unbalanced relationship. If she's working at a bar/restaurant and you're working a real job that's indicator #1 of the imbalance. Indicator #2 is that, while you don't explicitly state this, she is trying to hold you back through guilt tripping you and/or is already successfully holding you back. Indicator #3 is that you're energetic and looking to chase your goals. She's more or less wanting to sit on the couch and veg out.

I think this girl should be history. It's never going to be enough. You should keep going to the gym. You should keep exploring this new chapter of life. You're only young once. Unless there is a ring on the finger there shouldn't have to be too many serious relationship talks. That's not what love is.

Jas0ng wrote:

My girlfriend, on the other hand, doesn't have very clear goals and enjoys being lazy and relaxing all day on her days off. She has made it pretty clear with her actions that learning and become a better self is not a priority in her life.

Well, this sums it up.

Leave her faster than a cheetah bolting out of a salad bar.

Ya, this one is done. I would stop wasting each others time. You obviously want very different things and it doesn't sound like that is going to change.

just answered the question wrote:

Here's what you gotta do. Sit in a chair. Tell yo' woman to get you a beer. Backhand her. Tell her to shut-up because there is more where that came from

Please don't post crap like this here. Unacceptable.

Jas0ng wrote:

I'm baffled.

Really, baffled? That's your problem. You need to be waffled with lots of butter and syrup.

your girlfriend is right - she's not the priority in your life. you've made it clear your job comes first, then getting in shape.

if you want to prioritize her, you will.

Trollus Maximus wrote:

Jas0ng wrote:

My girlfriend, on the other hand, doesn't have very clear goals and enjoys being lazy and relaxing all day on her days off. She has made it pretty clear with her actions that learning and become a better self is not a priority in her life.

Well, this sums it up.

Leave her faster than a cheetah bolting out of a salad bar.

Bingo! The relationship is a dead end regardless of any good feelings that exist right now.

Jas0ng wrote:

-Is it too much of me to ask her not to be lazy all of the time?

Send her a text saying this.

Then get back to us.

Hey when I see something I don't like on the internet, telling them its unacceptable always makes them stop.

I'm joking, quit your bitchin.

OP, sounds like you don't like this girl as much as you think you do. If you're prioritizing other stuff in front of her, you're subconsciously deciding that you don't want to spend as much time with her. I did this once, every time I thought about hanging out with my girlfriend, I always dreaded it and booked other stuff at the last minute without realizing I didn't like her anymore. Finally I just said to myself if I never wanna hangout with her then why am I dating her? That lead to me dumping her and now I feel great. You save tons of money, hangout with your friends and run as much as you like without your girl whining at you because she's not a priority. My advice would be to give it some deep thought, and if you decide to break up with her, go through with it and cease to waste anymore of both your time. Trust me, you'll be happy.

tl;dr

If she thinks you need to spend more time together, that is ideal. If you cave on this she will then get bored with you. Pursue your career and life goals as a priority, those are the things that will keep attracting her or if necessary, more quality women who have a life of their own.

I would live my own life, and see what happens, in the meantime not making any concessions that impinge on how you want to be living your life, for you. If she likes you how you are, and doesn't impinge on your ethics, fine, but if not, then things will proceed as they will and the relationship won't be lasting.

Not at all. However she might not respond in a positive manner, and in that case move on, as otherwise she will keep getting worse and will make you much worse too, and very unhappy.

Absolutely NOT.

See her only when you want to, and only when it fits your personal schedule.

She's being a drama queen getting you to move to that apartment, then sending that message to you, probably exactly as she'd planned, to put you in a worse condition, then to complain and put pressure on you to do what she wants, i.e. maybe to move into a place together and/or get married.

RED FLAGS

Don't do what she wants you to do.

Your life is your life.

Do what YOU want to do, and that's not the same as she wants.

Thank youAlways hit report a post along with calling posters like this out

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just answered the question wrote:

boorish crappola

Please don't post crap like this here. Unacceptable.

Email the mods for quicker action

Your GF may not admit it but she is actually upset that you are moving in with friends instead of her. She wants you to be getting a place with her or giving her a ring. Just my guess

Hand Of Fate wrote:

tl;dr

If she thinks you need to spend more time together, that is ideal. If you cave on this she will then get bored with you. Pursue your career and life goals as a priority, those are the things that will keep attracting her or if necessary, more quality women who have a life of their own.

This ^. Goals, mission, drive and purpose go above any chick. Be your best to attract the best for you.

J.R. wrote:

not making any concessions

Why would anyone listen to this idiot?

Not make any concessions? You have no idea how healthy, happy, loving, fulfilling and growing relationships work.

you sound incredibly self centered and self absorbed. honestly, grow the f**k up. relationships are about compromise. the key in your post was when you said 'i like how she makes me feel'....well, what the f**k do you do for her?

Yep. And the OP is overestimating his career potential.