Is it immoral to kiss someone who is in a relationship?

'who is currently on the other side of the world'

He can't be that keen on her then

You really should get married prior to engaging in a physical relationship (if worried about morals).

It is not immoral for YOU.

Whether it is "immoral" for HER is a different question and open to debate. Regardless of if it is immoral or not, it is not the type of behavior one should try to follow (for her).

My 4 year old son is familiar with 'The Golden Rule'. If you wouldn't mind having some guy kiss your girlfriend, go for it.

Aspire to be the kind of man who can forego a little pleasure for the sake of being honorable.

Simply put, she may want to try you out while the other guy is someplace else. She likes you better? Great. Or maybe she just messes with you until he gets back.

I'd be wary of this. If she's willing to cheat on him with you, she'll be willing to cheat on you with someone else.

Ah yes, the golden rule. I suppose I shouldn't do anything, if she wants to make the first move then fine. Sometimes though I think life would be more fun if I could shut off my conscience.

The boyfriend is studying abroad btw.

Thanks for the advice everyone.

"Boyfriend" is an extremely vague term. What's the level of commitment they've made to one another? If they haven't actually made a commitment to have an exclusive relationship, then it's not immoral at all. Assumptions don't count for anything.

Don't confuse the "Boyfriend/Girlfriend" relationship with Engagement or Marriage, where the two parties make a promise that they should intend to keep. If you try to make a move on a married or engaged women, you're behaving immorally

YES, IT IS IMMORAL IF YOUR "GIRLFRIEND" IS YOUR MOM AND HIS "BOYFRIEND" IS YOUR DAD.

YOU LIVE IN WEST VIRGINIA?

Most of us were probably in similar situations at some time. I was in a serious relationship when another girl began to flirt with me. Eventually it came to a point where I needed to decide to break up or two-time. I decided on the break-up route and, in hind sight, am glad I did. When I actually tried to break up, it caused an incredible emotional experience that forced me to realize I couldn't follow through with it - and I no longer wanted to date the new girl. Despite temptations, I kept the other girl in the friend zone and eventually married my girl friend. Nice to live with a clear conscience.

Thus, my advice is to tell her she must break up with her boyfriend before starting up with you. If she can't do it, don't date her.

seattleftw wrote:

You really should get married prior to engaging in a physical relationship (if worried about morals).

Really? Why?

reader of the forums wrote:

It is not immoral for YOU.

Whether it is "immoral" for HER is a different question and open to debate. Regardless of if it is immoral or not, it is not the type of behavior one should try to follow (for her).

This ^ is the right answer.

The longhaired barefoot guy riding the dinosaur said so.

Questions and Stuff wrote:

seattleftw wrote:

You really should get married prior to engaging in a physical relationship (if worried about morals).

Really? Why?

Her relationship isn't your problem. I feel the same way when I'm dating someone. The people in the relationship are responsible for not cheating.

BUT

If you're interested in having a real relationship with this person (not just a hookup), you shouldn't do anything until they have broken up. Trying to start a committed relationship with infidelity is a terrible idea.

Did you not recently see the commander in chief lay that kiss on that chick at the voting booth? Immoral? Try more like stop being a little prude.

Morality is subjective and varies from individual to individual. The golden rule is certainly a good guideline. At the end of the day, you have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and sleep at night. If you can do that, then you're good.

you probably should wait until you are both married

that makes it pretty special and meaningful when the Minister says "you may now kiss the bride"

seriously that is pretty amazingly wonderful

Other side of the world? Is this a Master and Commander thing?

Do you know the boyfriend? If you do and especially if he considers you a friend, then hell no - you would be scum to do it.

If on the other hand, you either don't know him or barely know him, go for it. Everything you said in your concerns is true but you'll regret it more if you act all honorable and miss an opportunity to hook up with a girl you really like. If you do, eventually she'll just cheat on the boyfriend with another guy and then you'll actually feel bad.

If she is in her early 20's and the boyfriend is studying abroad, then she may be staying in the relationship for convenience. She also may be waiting for you to make the first (and second, etc.) move. If you are sensing a romantic connection with her, then say something and see what she says without putting her on the spot. Or ask how things are going with the boyfriend and see how committed they are. As another said, you're better off taking the high road and asking her to conclude the relationship with the boyfriend (especially if you know him) before getting involved romantically.