Could somebody tell me what it feels like in love?

Non-Running Relationships/Women/Men

9 years ago 09/18/2014 2:45pm EDT

I am quite sure that I have never been "in love," as people say. But I think that I am falling in love right now. You see, here is my evidence:

1. I can't stop thinking about the girl.

2. I cannot get enough of this person and want to learn as much about her as possible. I cannot wait to see or communicate with her next. She also has a similar interest in me.

3. We have a mutual admiration for each other and our positive qualities, while helping each other improve our rougher qualities.

4. Some of the stuff she says just melts my heart and turns me into a mushy ball of man.

5. She inspires me to be more helpful, empathetic, accomplished, motivated, and generally better person.

6. We share a mutual love of learning and creating that allows us to build off each others' minds.

7. I derive a sense of warmth and comfort from interacting with her.

8. Knowing she is a part of my life gives me an energy that makes it easier for me to wake up in the morning and do my daily tasks.

9. I want share, build, and create with this person more than anyone I have met in my entire life.

10. Whatever happens with this person in the future, I just want to allow it to happen.

There probably is more, but that is all that comes to my mind at the moment. Not to mention she is an in-shape babe.

I fear that I have serious case of the oneitis and she will break my heart. But even if that does happen, the relationship has been so enriching and fun so far, that letting myself indulge in this person is more beneficial than the potential future heartache.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 2:56pm EDT

re: clueless bro

It feels like a drug-induced nirvana because that is exactly what it is.

It also has zero relationship to actually loving.

If you'd like to be a better human being and far happier in the process, start with this book:

The Art of Loving - Eric Fromm

You can thank me later.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 3:09pm EDT

it feels like a bunch of meaningless horomones and chemicals rioting in your body for about a year or two then it feels no different from how you've always felt

9 years ago 09/18/2014 3:15pm EDT

re: Cluesome Bro

Cluesome Bro wrote:
It feels like a drug-induced nirvana because that is exactly what it is.
It also has zero relationship to actually loving.
If you'd like to be a better human being and far happier in the process, start with this book:
The Art of Loving - Eric Fromm
You can thank me later.

Yes, it does feel slightly drug induced. I understand how strong emotions can change our perception and understanding of things.

Thank you for the tip.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 3:15pm EDT

re: TheNavidsonRecord

I can honestly say that I love my wife more now than I did when we got married 20 years ago.

Love is a weird thing. I'd die for her, but not in the same way that I would die for my kids. The kids thing takes no thought. I would die for my kids in a heartbeat, without even consideration. The wife is different, but I have considered it numerous times and I always conclude that I would die for her.

Weird way to describe the way I feel about her, but there you go.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 5:38pm EDT

re: Jassy

OP:

Don't get too hung up on this "creating things together" lets you fall into the trap of becoming pretentious. I'm not sure if you are making music or art or what together, but just be careful, it is an easy trap to fall into.

Anyway, it sounds like you are into this chick and she mirrors your feelings. Don't over think it and just enjoy it.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 5:42pm EDT

re: clueless bro

I think the real reason you started this thread was to give yourself another opportunity to go on and on about this love of your life.By the way, I didn't mind it, I rather enjoyed your post.The one distinction you will learn is the difference between infatuation and love. Infatuation will turn into deep love is things continue to go well.Good luck. It is a great feeling isn't it?

clueless bro wrote:
I am quite sure that I have never been "in love," as people say. But I think that I am falling in love right now. You see, here is my evidence:
1. I can't stop thinking about the girl.
2. I cannot get enough of this person and want to learn as much about her as possible. I cannot wait to see or communicate with her next. She also has a similar interest in me.
3. We have a mutual admiration for each other and our positive qualities, while helping each other improve our rougher qualities.
4. Some of the stuff she says just melts my heart and turns me into a mushy ball of man.
5. She inspires me to be more helpful, empathetic, accomplished, motivated, and generally better person.
6. We share a mutual love of learning and creating that allows us to build off each others' minds.
7. I derive a sense of warmth and comfort from interacting with her.
8. Knowing she is a part of my life gives me an energy that makes it easier for me to wake up in the morning and do my daily tasks.
9. I want share, build, and create with this person more than anyone I have met in my entire life.
10. Whatever happens with this person in the future, I just want to allow it to happen.
There probably is more, but that is all that comes to my mind at the moment. Not to mention she is an in-shape babe.
I fear that I have serious case of the oneitis and she will break my heart. But even if that does happen, the relationship has been so enriching and fun so far, that letting myself indulge in this person is more beneficial than the potential future heartache.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 5:52pm EDT

re: Jassy

NUMEROUS TIMES? So how often do you really consider and think about your wife being threatened with death?Naw, I'm just kidding you.

Jassy wrote:
The wife is different, but I have considered it numerous times and I always conclude that I would die for her.
.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 6:29pm EDT

re: clueless bro

clueless bro wrote:
I am quite sure that I have never been "in love," as people say. But I think that I am falling in love right now. You see, here is my evidence:
1. I can't stop thinking about the girl.
2. I cannot get enough of this person and want to learn as much about her as possible. I cannot wait to see or communicate with her next. She also has a similar interest in me.
3. We have a mutual admiration for each other and our positive qualities, while helping each other improve our rougher qualities.
4. Some of the stuff she says just melts my heart and turns me into a mushy ball of man.
5. She inspires me to be more helpful, empathetic, accomplished, motivated, and generally better person.
6. We share a mutual love of learning and creating that allows us to build off each others' minds.
7. I derive a sense of warmth and comfort from interacting with her.
8. Knowing she is a part of my life gives me an energy that makes it easier for me to wake up in the morning and do my daily tasks.
9. I want share, build, and create with this person more than anyone I have met in my entire life.
10. Whatever happens with this person in the future, I just want to allow it to happen.
There probably is more, but that is all that comes to my mind at the moment. Not to mention she is an in-shape babe.
I fear that I have serious case of the oneitis and she will break my heart. But even if that does happen, the relationship has been so enriching and fun so far, that letting myself indulge in this person is more beneficial than the potential future heartache.

I'm sorry to break it to you but she has borderline personality disorder.

Here's a glimpse into what your life is going to be like in another 6-12 months:

http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=6021933&page=0

Run far, far away.

9 years ago 09/18/2014 6:32pm EDT

re: clueless bro

"Afternoon Delight"

Gonna find my baby, gonna hold her tight

Gonna grab some afternoon delight

My motto's always been; when it's right, it's right

Why wait until the middle of a cold dark night

When everything's a little clearer in the light of day

And we know the night is always gonna be there any way

Thinkin' of you's workin' up my appetite

Looking forward to a little afternoon delight

Rubbin' sticks and stones together makes the sparks ingite

and the thought of rubbin' you is getting so exciting

Sky rockets in flight

Afternoon delight

Started out this morning feeling so polite

I always thought a fish could not be caught who wouldn't bite

But you've got some bait a waitin' and I think

I might like having a little afternoon delight

Sky rockets in flight

Afternoon delight

Please' be waiting for me baby when I come around

We could make a lot of lovin' 'for the sun goes down

Thinkin' of you's workin' up an appetite

Looking forward to a little afternoon delight

Rubbin' sticks and stones together makes the sparks ingite

And the thought of rubbin' you is getting so exciting

Sky rockets in flight

Afternoon delight

9 years ago 09/18/2014 9:24pm EDT

re: trance dance turn in shawowski

trance dance turn in shawowski wrote:
I'm sorry to break it to you but she has borderline personality disorder.
Here's a glimpse into what your life is going to be like in another 6-12 months:
http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=6021933&page=0
Run far, far away.

Yea, after reading that thread, I was like, "uh oh. What is she hiding from me?"

Conundrum wrote:
I think the real reason you started this thread was to give yourself another opportunity to go on and on about this love of your life.
By the way, I didn't mind it, I rather enjoyed your post.
The one distinction you will learn is the difference between infatuation and love. Infatuation will turn into deep love is things continue to go well.
Good luck. It is a great feeling isn't it?

Nah, that's not it. I just want some letsrun.com bros to give me some perspective. Because I can't really be objective right now. What is objectivity, anyways?