I just ended a 3 year relationship with a women that exhibited many of the signs of BPD. Further, she claims to have PTSD, that her brother his Bipolar and that her mother has some mental / emotional issues.
The first 6 months of the relationship were great. The chemistry, sex and the fact that she was incredibly beautiful and intelligent had me falling for her. I moved into her house, and that's when everything went down hill. Here is an abbreviated list of the turmoil I endured:
- She called the cops on me multiple times during a fit of rage (kicked me out of her house once, and made false accusations with the cops another time)
- Verbal, emotional and physical abuse were present
- Push / pull - we broke up multiple times and then she would find her way back in somehow
- One week after breaking up, she sent me a video of her on a boat at the lake with another man she'd been dating
- One month after the above, she told me she was pregnant, but that it wasn't mine. One month after that, she told me that the baby was mine and that she lied because the guy made her lie
- 2 months after the above, she lost her new job (she only had for 2 months), had a miscarriage and went off the deep-end
- Several months after that, I caught her in a bunch of lies and confronted her, she went into a rage and tried to commit suicide
- She spent 2 weeks in a behavioral health institute and was given an outpatient program
- Several months after that, we got into an argument one night, and she got physical with me and then called cops and made false report. I had to get a lawyer to clear things up
- We didn't speak for 4 months and I was dating other women and finally getting over her before she came back and promised she'd changed blah blah and sucked me back in
- 4 months after that we had another fight where she got physical. This time she scratched the sh!t out of my forearms, neck and face before pulling out a kitchen knife and kicking in my bedroom door. I immediately throw a blanket over her and pushed up against the wall to disarm her. She began kicking and screaming for an ambulance, so I became very concerned for myself and called the police. They ended up handcuffing her, taking her to jail and charging her with a 2nd degree felony (aggravated assault with a deadly weapon). Her parents spent $1k on bail and another ~$20k on legal defense.
These are just some of the highlights of the misery that an emotional/mental wreck of a person can inflict upon you. She has no friends (only men that want to bang her out), her brothers don't want her around their children and she hasn't been able to hold down a job over the past 2 years.
The only reason she is not in jail or living under a bridge, is because she is a trust fund baby and is able to afford a brand new $90K vehicle and pay mortgage on a $500k townhouse with her royalties / trust fund. Its very sad, because when she is normal (maybe 25% of the time), she is the most amazing and beautiful person I've met. But when she is manic/crazy or whatever you'd like to call it, she is a terrible person that nobody wants to be around. She causes pain, has zero respect, zero appreciation, and her behavior is very risky to anyone in close proximity.