I dated a girl for 3 years who, if she wasn't borderline, definitely had lots of borderline traits, and it was HELL! She was obsessed with me for 2 of those years and I put up with so much abuse. Then I started to try to make it work with her and she began searching for a new target. Then she moved to London in March saying that it would be a "new start" for us, and then the day she moved she ended it by text. She then told me she'd been sleeping with a guy at work for months and that she didn't fancy me anymore and had never loved me. This is 3 days after she told me how much she loved me! And not only that but all of a sudden she started to absolutely HATE me! I was a "monster", psychopath, sociopath - basically the worst human being on earth. And she was going to get a restraining order on ME!
Here are a few of the things she did during our relationship:
- Stalked me, sitting outside my house for hours
- Keyed my car
- Threatened suicide about 10 times or more when I tried to leave her
- Faked pregnancies twice, declaring they could me mine, or a guy called Mike (who the f**k is mike?!)
- Cheated on me whilst travelling in NZ and sent me photos of her with the guy and described the sex, then lied about not seeing him for months
- Ripped up my clothes
- Lied about having cancer and when I questioned her broke up with me and slept with a guy at work and sent me an email to let me know about it.
The list goes on so much further. They're so manipulative that you'll find yourself apologising for them cheating! They will NEVER apologise.
They are always the abuser, yet they will play the victim! It's an impossible situation. And they believe their own lies!!! You ALWAYS lose! Always.
They will wreck your life. They will hurt you for self gratification. Their objective is to destroy you and the most crucial element of that is making you believe that you are the most important thing in the world to them. Then as soon as they have you emotionally hooked they will cut you off and make you feel a pain like no other you have ever experienced.
You'll be left questioning your sanity, depressed, and you will never be the same again!
If you're charismatic, self assured, or full of self esteem and think they'll never do it to you, chances are you're next in line for it. You're exactly the kind of guy they want because destroying you is a real achievement.
Get away before they destroy you. And if you think you're in control, you aren't, they are more manipulative, more calculating, and more evil than you are.
RUN!