Anyone ever go to bars/clubs alone to pick up girls

ONS wrote:

Might try this tonight, any good tips or stories?

Surprisingly enough, a lot of the same principles women use to succeed in the bar scene are the principles men can use.

* Go to the bar with a small group of guys, each of whom is worse looking than you. That'll make you stand out and look more attractive. Whereas, if you go with a group of guys who are taller and handsomer than you, then you won't stand a chance.

* Don't buy drinks for the wimmenz. If anything, make them buy drinks for you.

* Keep your alcohol intake under control, but, when convenient to do so, act more drunk than you actually are.

I never go with the express purpose of picking women up, but I do go to bars alone often. I enjoy watching baseball at the bar. There's just something about it. That being said, I have gotten a few numbers without ever really trying. Things just fall into place like that sometimes. One of the women was the bartender at the dive near my apartment. Very attractive.

We need to know more about where you'll be going to help you further, though. If you're going to a bar where you'll most likely be sitting, you'll want to have something to occupy you. Either a game to watch or reading material. You don't want to come off as aloof or lonesome, which is a distinct possibility anytime you go to a bar alone.

If you are going to the club, it is a bit easier. Find a group of women who are dancing in a circle and just join in. It takes stones to work up to that level, but they will love it. Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself in these situations. Women absolutely LOVE dancing so if you dance, you're in. I would suggest having a wingman to go to the club though. Seems like it'd be terribly awkward to go to a club alone. Even better than a wingman is a wingwoman, though. If you have any lady friends, invite them to go out. That's the real move.

ONS wrote:

Might try this tonight, any good tips or stories?

As a guy who has played rock and blues music in bars all over this country, I would say that very few of them are good pickup places for anything lasting (not sure if you want that). I've seen the same women (tramps I'll call them) get picked up by different guys on different nights. As a general statement, bars are sad, sad places.

College bars that have college kids in them primarily (if you're that age) are an exception...bars where the average age is 24+ though...better have your skank radar going full steam.

Usually the only thing you might pick up that's lasting is a good ol' venereal disease.

Flagpole wrote:

As a guy who has played rock and blues music in bars all over this country, I would say that very few of them are good pickup places for anything lasting (not sure if you want that). I've seen the same women (tramps I'll call them) get picked up by different guys on different nights. As a general statement, bars are sad, sad places.

College bars that have college kids in them primarily (if you're that age) are an exception...bars where the average age is 24+ though...better have your skank radar going full steam.

Usually the only thing you might pick up that's lasting is a good ol' venereal disease.

Flagpole, you aren't usually this sardonic. Did you get burned once? Please share that story.

Josh Hamilton's Addiction wrote:

Flagpole wrote:

As a guy who has played rock and blues music in bars all over this country, I would say that very few of them are good pickup places for anything lasting (not sure if you want that). I've seen the same women (tramps I'll call them) get picked up by different guys on different nights. As a general statement, bars are sad, sad places.

College bars that have college kids in them primarily (if you're that age) are an exception...bars where the average age is 24+ though...better have your skank radar going full steam.

Usually the only thing you might pick up that's lasting is a good ol' venereal disease.

Flagpole, you aren't usually this sardonic. Did you get burned once? Please share that story.

Ha! No way, brother. I was never into the bar scene. I wouldn't have been interested in finding a woman who was into the bar scene. Come to think of it, I'm not sure I've ever gone into a bar (a place that is PRIMARILY a bar...not a place to eat that has a bar) other than because I was being paid to play music or for competing in a HUGE biceps competition.

Also, you gotta remember too that as a musician, I stay until the bar manager makes last call, so I see all the sadness and pitifulness that is left in the place at 2 a.m....so, perhaps my view is skewed.

With your motives in mind, I suggest going to a bar at a nice hotel in your area.

Easiest way to pick up girls alone is at a place with a dance floor. Show up late, and if you're going to drink, do the majority of it before you go. When you get there, grab a beer and go right to the dance floor. Don't wanna look like the creepy guy just standing there by himself.

Truth! wrote:

Easiest way to pick up girls alone is at a place with a dance floor. Show up late, and if you're going to drink, do the majority of it before you go. When you get there, grab a beer and go right to the dance floor. Don't wanna look like the creepy guy just standing there by himself.

what he said.

Dont drink if you can avoid it. You want to be situationaly aware. there will be girls who are alone too. talk to them. more than 50% chance they are there to hook up as well. If they ask you why you are there alone, I always said,"to find a sex partner for the evening". It works.

simple wrote:

With your motives in mind, I suggest going to a bar at a nice hotel in your area.

24, willing to dance, looking for a one night stand.

Truth! wrote:

Easiest way to pick up girls alone is at a place with a dance floor. Show up late, and if you're going to drink, do the majority of it before you go. When you get there, grab a beer and go right to the dance floor. Don't wanna look like the creepy guy just standing there by himself.

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I always meet cool people this way that you'd never run into in normal life. Sometimes good, sometimes bad, but still.

I've done this before but I tend to have more success bringing a buddy or two. Having a wingman makes things go much more smoothly. If your or him hits it off with a girl, you have an easy in to talk to her friends.

ONS wrote:

Might try this tonight, any good tips or stories?

That's crazy talk. It will never work.

Girls that go to dance aren't there to meet people

If you pick a girl up on the dance floor its most likely an accident and you will be labeled as "her accident" at that particular bar scene.

o.O wrote:

Some girls that go to dance aren't there to meet people

If you pick a girl up on the dance floor it could be an accident and you might be labeled as "her accident" at that particular bar scene.

FTFY

Yes, but I won't share my techniques or any stories. You have to figure out your own style and those memories are yours to savor.

'Also, you gotta remember too that as a musician, I stay until the bar manager makes last call, so I see all the sadness and pitifulness that is left in the place at 2 a.m....so, perhaps my view is skewed'

More like sober and with a wife at home

If you are single what's wrong with some fun unless you are going to live like a monk

Regular bars you are better off going with friends. Part of that is in your head though I've been when on business and there was an excuse to be alone did ok

I used to go to singles bar /club during the week. Got to know a few girls so would sit with them then go from their to chat to other girls . If I didn't know anyone I would still find some girls to sit with

Drink half as much as you usually do being sober gives you a great advantage over the guys who need bottled courage to talk to someone.

neighbor hood hang out bars- the kind you dropinto to catch a game, a quick burger or the central place to meet friends and then go to a movie, show or a sports event. Your local is a long term investment-get to know the regulars, especially the couples, get to know the staff they can be a big help introducing you around. Be yourself everywhere no acts no posing introduce your self to the bartender and the folks around you. Get into mixed company conversations, every woman has a friend they would like to see "get a good man". Prove you are that man- be honest up front and most of all listen to what people say and comment on their thoughts, It's Ok to disagree just be sure you indicate that you heard and evaluated their view point... discuss things do not argue. Keep the dialog open and ongoing winning points is not the end game here. The end game is keeping common ground open to insure further social interaction.

When you become a regular who knows the staff & other people who often are in the joint you are not alone.

YOU MUST FIND A WING CHICK! That's right a girl who has an outgoing personality the prettier the better. GF/wife of a friend, a neighbor or a long time friend. You must be seen with girls to show other girls you have been able to gain approval from other females .

Any other joint- Bring the most attractive wingchick you can find.

Watch your drinking-always be the soberest one in the group.

^this, and being a regular gets you more buybacks

Sometimes it is great to be alone.

I was in Cairns, Australia a few years ago, and decided to check out a Greek restaurant on my walk back to my friends (they were newly engaged, and wanted to give them some time alone).

I sit down, completely content, reading a good book...when to my left, a large table of attractive women...stewardess for Virgin Blue, invited me to join them.

Sometimes you just get lucky.