how long did it take to find a suitable bride?
how long did it take to find a suitable bride?
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I think answers will be all over the place. I know some who get married to their first real girl friend after high school or college. I also know some who dated for years before getting married in their mid-30s.
wiscy sour wrote:
how long did it take to find a suitable bride?
This is LRC after all: don't they all live in mom's basement!? (either never been on a date or moved back in after post-nuptial shutoff of course).
My case, 4-5 years depending on when the clock started. College, wasn't looking. So post-college (not really looking to get married either; but figured a LTR would be nice). 3-4 years, interspersed with a bunch of STRs and dating fiascos.
I met my wife in high school. We were great friends but didn't start dating until a few years in to college. We might as well have been engaged from day one.
Dating and marriage are two things the modern world has over complicated beyond reason.
I started dating my wife (girlfriend then) at 29yo and married her at 31yo.
About 2 years after I got married
About 30 years.
about 16 years to find her and another 10 realize she was the one.
Started dating when I was 31, got married when I was 34.
About 30 minutes on a Russian bride site. She came with a money back guarantee, so I thought, what's there to lose?
After an exhaustive search, I met my wife of 32 years at age 14 40 years ago.
It doesn't take that long if you are actually the marrying kind and what you want is a wife. They're out there.
Make sure she has a great sense of humor... That will last long after her looks are gone.
27 Years
Acceptable is not a very high bar. Heck I found some acceptable ones as I was just becoming a teen-ager. There is so much growing and developing when one is 22ish that it is dangerous to make a final decision that young. In retrospect the decision I made at 30 was a bit short-sighted, but I nailed it at 40.
The good news is that it is not as if there is only one person out there for you. The bad news is that you are a moving target and so are those potential brides. I'd say 28-34 is probably the ideal age, but you want to have had a handful of serious relationships before you make that decision and you want at least 6 months to be comfortable with that decision before you make it a legally binding one. Potential brides, parents, friends, ticking clocks, birthdays with a 0 or 5 after them, etc. can all put external pressure on you to make a decision before you are ready. If you are not sure, don't cross your fingers and hope it works out -- wait for something you know is the right choice.