I'm single, never married, and no kids. Age 35. I work full time and run recreationally. Running is my primary hobby. I've never married, and don't see myself ever doing so.
So...how does society view me? Loner, loser, perv, what?
I'm single, never married, and no kids. Age 35. I work full time and run recreationally. Running is my primary hobby. I've never married, and don't see myself ever doing so.
So...how does society view me? Loner, loser, perv, what?
Why did you suggest those words with negative connotations? Do you think it's a bad thing?
I don't think people would necessarily judge you that way at all. There might be the occasional person who would wonder if you are gay, but that's not a huge deal.
You should not care.
the clarifier wrote:
You should not care.
Also, society does not think.
eastong wrote:
Why did you suggest those words with negative connotations? Do you think it's a bad thing?
I don't think people would necessarily judge you that way at all. There might be the occasional person who would wonder if you are gay, but that's not a huge deal.
Someday they might wonder whether you are heterosexual if you have not entered into a gay "marriage" by 35.
GKC wrote:
Someday they might wonder whether you are heterosexual if you have not entered into a gay "marriage" by 35.
Oh, yes. Grand gay conspiracy and all that. Righteo Chum.
Now go run along and play. There's really no need to worry your little mind with these things until you grow up a bit.
Single and no kids? Do you realize how many people would love that?
No kids = Money
No wife = Freedom
Would you rather live the typical 35 yr old's life where you have no extra money because of your kids and a wife that shut you off?
Optimus wrote:
Single and no kids? Do you realize how many people would love that?
No kids = Money
No wife = Freedom
Would you rather live the typical 35 yr old's life where you have no extra money because of your kids and a wife that shut you off?
This is true! Read it and mark it down! The single, no kids people are the happiest by far!
Just like Kramer said, marriage is a prison! You're doing time! It's like you have to ask permission to go to the bathroom. "Is it alright if I go to the bathroom now?"
Trust me, nobody care about your status. We're all worried about ourselves.
Just don't show up and start shooting/stabbing people.
If you feel you need help, by all means get some.
You have what most do not- freedom. Just be sure to use it! Travel, take great vacations, do interesting things. So while your married with 2.5 kids friend in the suburbs is going to lame @ss Disney you go to Europe or kayak the amazon or something great.
I wouldn't give a rat's behind about what society thinks if I was you.
They are envious .
Society doesn't view this as anything exceptional or deviant.
Just another person.
It would probably take some people by surprise - hearing that you weren't married/no kids and all that, but I don't think they would look down on you. Some would envy you, and others might ignorantly feel sorry for you, assuming you're lonely, even though you appear to be just fine.
All in all, don't worry about what society thinks.
Personally, I view you as a tragic waste of space. Your parents put a lot of work into you and have nothing to show for their efforts. Sad. Just sad.
But seriously, you will probably die a lonely old man. I will die somewhat younger, penniless and broken after being henpecked and burdened for decades by a ever increasingly needy wife and family. And I wouldn't trade places with you for the world.
Try taking on the burdens of another human being. You might be surprised how much happiness it brings.
Insecure about my standing wrote:
I'm single, never married, and no kids. Age 35. I work full time and run recreationally. Running is my primary hobby. I've never married, and don't see myself ever doing so.
So...how does society view me? Loner, loser, perv, what?
Society as a whole is unfair and unforgiving. Generally speaking, if you are a man, society views you as an immature man-child not wanting to grow up. If you are a woman, they view you as sad; a person who has not yet found what they (society) assume you're after.
Marriage and/or a family is not for everyone, my brother. There are more and more like you all the time and more of society who is accepting of your choice all the time.
Bottom line is that if you are happy with your situation, then who cares what "society" thinks?
I'm about your age and have never been married. It get lots of comments about it. Some out of curiosity. Some out of pity (poor you, you're so lonely!). Some of of superiority (when are you going to grow up and get a wife!). Yes, some think you're gay. Then again, I live in the south, where anyone that doesn't walk through the door with a pregnant wife on their arm is assumed to be gay. Worst of all are the well meaning friends who try to set you up with someone (shudder).
Many people just can't understand that some single people are perfectly happy being single.
Everybody wants to tell this guy not to worry about what Society thinks. That is decent advise on the surface. But it misses a larger point and avoids any responsibility to give this wretched soul the input he is seeking.
What is at stake is this man's ultimate happiness. What society sometimes offers is a set of guide posts that might lead to happiness. Other times, not so much. We are witnessing in the western world a great experiment where many have chosen and are choosing to live life unattached and unincumbered by marriage, family, community involvement and other traditional self imposed obligations and limitations on our freedom and daily movement. For many, this is proving to be a path to loneliness and anything but happiness.
Society would like only to offer the benefit of it's experience and collective observations. In the end, we must each find our own path and live with the consequences of our choices.
Single people at that age, male or female, are lonely. Don't confuse the ladies man going home every night with one on each arm with your typical Letsrunner.
Excellent observation. We need to get this kid laid.
mgm wrote:
Single people at that age, male or female, are lonely. Don't confuse the ladies man going home every night with one on each arm with your typical Letsrunner.