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My son is eight and I have found a great boarding school where I feel he would blossom into a great guy. Staying at home I spend what little time I can but he is hooked to video games. He does not see the world outside the screen and is losing his childhood. Im worried this may go on if he stays here. I am dead without him but I want him to go so that he discovers himself for the angel he is. But he is refusing to go. He has to start next year. What shall I do? Im terribly scared. |
| mama66 |
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I need your advice desperately. Please tell me how I can make son see good in it. He is afraid of leaving home. On top of my worries his father has alcohol problems and swings between alcohol and work. We lead a life of uncertainty. We are surviving by god's grace.
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Really? You come here for advice? Where is his father? You all need counseling, and some skills in "just saying" no to the video games and screens until homework is done etc. |
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do you remember how awesome college was? With boarding school kids can have that fun for twice as long. |
| mama66 |
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THe child is alone at home all day as I return from home around 8. So he spends a lot of time at the computer. He does his homework daily as I send him to a tution teacher. My husband lives with us. He works like me. |
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sell his xbox, get him some running shoes. |
| mama66 |
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I have enrolled him for football coaching. He skates at school and is also learning tennis. He has already learnt swimming and loves the pool. But the rest of the time coming home is like coming to the comp to his favourite game, currently gta vice city. Must be a great game. |
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Just sell the xbox. Better, defenestrate it. |
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My parents used to try all sorts of tricks to prevent me from playing video games. I do not think they went about it the right way, as I did all my homework, played several sports, took music lessons, math lessons, art lessons, and played outside. But heaven forbid if I wanted to play video games and "rot my brain." Years later, it was my experience with video games and computers that enabled me to have a very concrete advantage in every work and academic environment I have encountered. If my parents sent me to boarding school I would have emancipated myself from them the second I turned 18 and never looked back. That's an admission to being a failed parent, except in rare circumstances where the school is Andover or Exeter, but I still have reservations about that. Try exercising discipline and alternate reinforcement strategies with your son, and realize that video games (like sweets) are okay as long as they are in moderation.
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I would rather find a job that required me to work less than send my kid away to be raised by others. What is the purpose of having a job? |
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It is a great game. |
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This. |
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it must be a good game. Besides he does a lot of reading up on the computer and researches on the you tube to learn more about the game and related games. Your words give me hope. I hope it is all for the good. He now spends about 3 hours daily, one in the afternoon, two in the evening. Is that moderation? |
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0.5/10 |
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I give you 0/10 for this. Could have been better, but you tipped your hand when you said he plays "gta vice city. Must be a great game." 1) A parent who does not know about a video game isn't then going to abbreviate it. 2) "Must be a great game" is just going too far. 8 year old playing that and you saying "must be a great game"? No way. No how. Fail. |
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Kids play lots of video games these days and overwhelmingly they turn out fine. For a lot of kids that IS their childhood. I've done a lot of family counseling in the past 25 or so years and the video game thing would not worry me as long as he's got competent and loving parents. What bother me more, honestly, is you, assuming that this whole thing is not fiction. You're worried that he's spending too much time playing video games and the only solution you can come up with is sending him to boarding school? How about exerting a little authority and maybe locking the games up when he's unsupervised and then giving them to him for a limited time when you or his dad is around? And boarding schools cost a crapload of money. If you can contemplate sending him to one maybe you should contemplate having one of you cut back on the amount of time you work and spending more time with him. Or maybe you could find a day care place or a babysitter who would supervise him and limit the games. Either would cost a lot less than boarding school. Regardless of what he's doing with his time, it seems like he's alone way too much of the time for an eight year old. |
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1. You don't have to emancipate yourself when you turn 18. You just turn 18 - that's it. Nice education you got yourself there. 2. How is having your kids in a boarding school failing as a parent. I went to am amazing boarding school for grades 10-12, and wouldn't change a thing about it. All of the things I loved about college, except earlier and of course a bit more supervised. |
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My mother and her 3 brothers all went to boarding school. All but one uncle turned out great and loved their mother (i.e. my grandmother). The one 'bad' uncle was on the front lines in Vietnam (and not by choice), so his behavior has independent explanation. This is most definitely a troll thread, though, as Flag pointed out. |
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He's addicted to video games because you are a poor parent and let him do this Now, you want to wash your hands of him and hand over parenting responsibilities to a boarding school In answer to your question - no he won't hate you. He probably just won't care about you at all if you show him you don't care about him like this |
| And then there's Maude |
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Hard to say what best course of action is for you. But your problem is that you care what an 8 year old thinks. |
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