No hablo espanol wrote:
You seem to ignore the ever growing number of female providers still held to society's traditional view of women as care taker for their families and husbands. Many men in such households still cling to traditional views on gender roles for women. They expect their wives to cook, clean, shop and raise their children while they sit on their lazy asses all day criticizing, judging and generally being flagrant dicks. You can't have it both ways, guys. You want your women to contribute from a monetary perspective and you also want them to be submissive doormats.
Your assertion that men are just sitting on their asses doing nothing is ridiculous and discredits your post as you don't seem to have a grip on reality if you think that is anywhere near the norm. The vast majority of men do not expect their wives to be both the breadwinner and the caregiver. I know a dozen guys with families and none are like this, nor was it like this in my own home growing up or my best friend's home growing up. No one on this thread is asking to have it both ways. Generally whoever works less is expected to spend more time with the family, and this is usually women (I do know one family in which it's reversed, though). Since men usually work more than women, it only makes sense for the woman to spend more time doing things around the house in her off-time since the man is still working during this time. If both work equal amounts, both should help out around the house equal amounts. I also know that in some countries, when a couple has a child, the father or the mother are allowed to take 2 years of maternity/paternity leave to raise the child to toddler age and whoever does is paid their regular wage during this time. One works while the other stays home to raise the child, and it is frequently the man who stays home in the country I learned this about.
Any man who expects his wife to work as much or more than himself and do more than him around the house is a loser, I agree, and I think most men would agree as this does not represent the typical man.