Can I legally sue the parents of the bully at school who's picking on my son?

You're probably a troll, but

1. Have you discussed this with the school?

2. Have you talked with the other kid's parents?

If not, and you're also not a troll, then you're probably a lazy parent who would rather pay a lawyer to try to solve your problems instead of actually parenting.

No. But your son will sue you when he gets older for making him sensitive and not teaching him to fight.

One punch and three days off from school for fighting. Problem solved.

What sum of money would this likely get me?

What is it that you're interested in - helping your son, or getting paid? If you want to help you son, tell the school administration to get their sh*t together or you are going to hire a lawyer, and go from there. No school wants that exposure, so my guess is they would deal with the situation directly, and have words with the teacher as well. This is the route I would take, and when he got to be of a certain age I would tell him to handle bullies on his own.

Sue them for what? For having a rotten kid? I don't think the court system is how to address that sort of problem.

Talk to the teacher, and if that doesn't work talk to the school administration. Give them a chance to address the problem.

Yeah but... wrote:

No. But your son will sue you when he gets older for making him sensitive and not teaching him to fight.

One punch and three days off from school for fighting. Problem solved.

I hate to say it, but...

Yeah but... wrote:

No. But your son will sue you when he gets older for making him sensitive and not teaching him to fight.

One punch and three days off from school for fighting. Problem solved.

Everyone look! It's tough guy advice from a...tough guy. Do you also eat nails? I always have to chuckle whenever skinny runners dish out fighting advice. Do us all a favor and stop pretending you're Batman.

Get the bully alone, tell him you will kill his whole family including him if he ever bothers your son again. Don't tell him which kid is yours. this works.

I am a parent of small children not yet in school. The first time one of them comes home crying there will be hell to pay. The teachers are partly to blame even though I know their hands are tied to some extent.

There is simply no excuse for bullying; bad home, mean parents etc; still no excuse.

iuoiuiouiou wrote:

Everyone look! It's tough guy advice from a...tough guy. Do you also eat nails? I always have to chuckle whenever skinny runners dish out fighting advice. Do us all a favor and stop pretending you're Batman.

I'm not a tough guy and I used to get picked on a lot when I was a kid. I usually used my sense of humor to deflect things and had a fairly quick wit that helped me make bullies look stupid when I had to, but sometimes there is no better advice than that offered above.

My boys are three years apart and my oldest already knows that he will never be in trouble with me if he ever has to defend himself or his brother.

Somebody should sue you for being dumb enough to ask this question on a site full of bird chested runners who never defended in school.

well, i hate to say it, but the poster saying teaching him to fight is probably right. when i was little, i was very short but pretty muscular for my age. kids picked on me constantly in my early elementary school days. i got sick of it, so i would constantly tell my teacher everytime someone stole my lunch, punched me, or made fun of me. it just got worse. one day i told the teacher again, and she said that there was nothing she could do, i needed to learn to deal with it myself. so, i took matters into my own hands. i kid came up to me and punched me in the stomach. i beat his ass and pinned him to the ground and pushed his face into the floor. a teacher grabbed me and sent me to the office and i got a phone call home. the next day, the kids friend grabbed me by the throat and tried to choke me, so i kicked him in the stomach, punched him the face, and threw him to the ground too. another kid tried to stop me, so i punched him in the face too. i was sent home, suspended for 1 day from school. but i was never messed with again in school, and i actually ended up having a very positive experience for the rest of my grade school years.

I love this story - I think most people wish they had stood and fought at some point in school. Win or lose.

Make love not war.

Peace. Out.

Have your son challenge the bully to a dance-off.

Often, I see others want to make this about the individual being bullied when, really, it's about the bully and the bully's parents. "Oh, that person should really stand up and learn to defend themselves." The individual being bullied is not the problem. The bully is the problem and 100% of the problem is theirs. I'm all for teaching kids to stand up/defend themselves but some individuals, for whatever reason, cannot. It's easy to shift the blame around and blame everyone but the bully.

Promise me, son, not to do the things I've done.

Walk away from trouble if you can.

It won't mean you're weak if you turn the other cheek.

I hope you're old enough to understand:

Son, you don't have to fight to be a man!"

Coward wrote:

Promise me, son, not to do the things I've done.

Walk away from trouble if you can.

It won't mean you're weak if you turn the other cheek.

I hope you're old enough to understand:

Son, you don't have to fight to be a man!"

Yes, but remember that the last chorus of this song is changed to "Sometimes you've got to fight when you're a man." (Refers to a guy avenging his girl's beating and (implied) rape).

Proactive Parent wrote:

Get the bully alone, tell him you will kill his whole family including him if he ever bothers your son again. Don't tell him which kid is yours. this works.

I am a parent of small children not yet in school. The first time one of them comes home crying there will be hell to pay. The teachers are partly to blame even though I know their hands are tied to some extent.

There is simply no excuse for bullying; bad home, mean parents etc; still no excuse.

I know you're messing around, but I'm not throwing this idea out. Of course, I would never hurt the kid or his family, but I like the idea of scaring the sh!t out of him.

I mean, if the kid walked home alone or something, I could pretend to be a kidnapper (I'd be wearing a mask or something) and drive slowly past him, calling at him to get into the van (we have a Nissan minivan). I could say something like "so I hear you're a real tough boy at school... well, I like tough boys... I could show you what I do to tough boys if you'd just get into the van..." Then I'd scream out, ".. GET INTO THE VAN, YOU LITTLE F#$%ER!"

At this point, the kid would take off running, and I'd burn rubber like I was chasing him, but then I'd peal off down a side road and drive back home. I'd have to be really careful that no cops are around though. I know that's a stupid idea, but it'd definitely be effective and pretty fun to boot! If the behavior persisted, I would simply repeat the exercise until the kid made the association between the two activities.

If you didn't already suspect, I'm a stay-at-home dad. I have a lot of time to think about these kinds of things.

Have you even tried talking to the teacher and/or principal first?