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What to Do?
My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 7:14AM Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Is this a trap?
Jobs
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 7:20AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
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Admiral Akbar
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 7:36AM - in reply to Jobs Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
IT'S A TRAP!

Jewelry.
troll extrodinaire
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 8:00AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
when in doubt, buy her a vacuum cleaner unless, of course, you can't afford one b/c you only make 250K per yr and live in Manhattan
WhitePony
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 8:01AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Get her a card and write a nice note in it.
something>nothing
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 8:09AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Take her out to a nice place to eat. Or get her something small that would be sentimental for her. You should definitely get her something.
Experienced boyfriend
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 9:04AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
How about making a donation to a cause she cares about? That way you're not getting *her* anything, but you're still showing her you care about what she cares about. Of course, this will only work if she's not a cynical misanthrope or nihilist.

You could also try making something for her, if you're good at that sort of thing. Overall I agree that a little somethin'-somethin' is probably a good idea.
ggg
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 9:16AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
no. you can happily save the money. Spend it on yourself.
knower of marriage things
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 9:49AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
If you don't have children, do an overnight trip, staying at a nice/comfortable place.

Where's Flagpole when we need him?
dean moriarty
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 9:49AM - in reply to Experienced boyfriend Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
I second the motion


Experienced boyfriend wrote:

How about making a donation to a cause she cares about? That way you're not getting *her* anything, but you're still showing her you care about what she cares about. Of course, this will only work if she's not a cynical misanthrope or nihilist.

Mr Oblivious
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 9:52AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Buy her slippers and a dildo. If she doesn't like the slippers, go tell her to f... herself.
treadmill powered telly
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 9:53AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Yes. You should get what every woman is pining for this year: a star named after her. http://www.starregistry.com/
The Stache
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 10:00AM - in reply to Admiral Akbar Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

Admiral Akbar wrote:

IT'S A TRAP!

Jewelry.


NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It is time to end this double standard bullshit!

If she insists on nothing for Christmas, get her nothing for Christmas. If she is upset, you tell her that this is exactly what she asked for, and as much as it felt weird to not get her anything, you wanted to respect her wishes. Then, you must tell her that if she actually wants something, she needs to communicate that with you. We are not mind readers no matter how much our wives want us to be.

Get her exactly what she asks for.

I did this once. Yes, it caused a bit of an unpleasant moment. But it has paid off well. Now, my wife does not come to me with a specific list of ideas. But she no longer pulls these bullshit games or tests. We actually have communication regarding gifts now, rather than trying to pass the stupid tests.
the gay greek gal,CC
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 10:09AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
I understandf her logic it's not her birthday so she does not want nor does she expect presents. Why should you get a present because it's someone elses birthday?
RunninginCircle
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 10:19AM - in reply to the gay greek gal,CC Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
I don't do any presents with my wife for Christmas or birthdays. Is this strange to most? Yes, but we don't really care.
It's just how we are and we're happy with it. If there's something we want, we buy it ourselves.
This is how we feel, we don't work to spend money on things that's a waste.
I'm not really into the commercialism that's become of today where lavish gifts are bought for all occasions.
I guess I was just raised this way since I didn't really get many presents for birthdays or Christmas. I'm happy that my wife's okay with this since she was raised in more normal American way.
Abigail Van Bureaucrat
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 10:50AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
It depends. If it's some sort of game where she's testing you and she'll be mad if you don't get her anything, you need to figure out some way of getting out of that sort of gameplaying because it's just unhealthy and destructive to a relationship. At least have a candid conversation about whether she really wants something and what she really wants from you and try to get your communications to where they are honest. It's just not good to be in a relationship where people aren't telling the truth about what they want.

If she's just a self-sacrificing person who really doesn't want anyone to go to any trouble over her, I would still get her something small but nice (nice, inexpensive jewelry is good if she likes that sort of thing).
person non raga
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 11:23AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Do nothing, you no good, lazy a$$ed ba$tard.
Flagpole
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 11:30AM - in reply to What to Do? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

What to Do? wrote:

Is this a trap?


1) If it's because the two of you are struggling with finances this year, then honor the request.

2) If it's because the two of you have loads of things and she honestly can't think of something, then open a non-retirement mutual fund and put some good starter money in there; tell her that it's there so that you can both perhaps retire even earlier than you had planned or that you can one day take the trip of a lifetime (or whatever floats your boat).

3) If it's a trap, then I feel sorry for you that you have such a manipulative immature wife, and in that case I will not make any suggestions because that's crazy, and Flagpole doesn't deal with crazy.
The Stache
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 11:37AM - in reply to Flagpole Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

Flagpole wrote:


What to Do? wrote:

Is this a trap?


3) If it's a trap, then I feel sorry for you that you have such a manipulative immature wife, and in that case I will not make any suggestions because that's crazy, and Flagpole doesn't deal with crazy.


Do you all see what I'm telling you? I basically wrote the same thing above, but in a much less eloquent way. I hate the trap game. I refuse to play it. I don't read minds, and no one should be expected to.
haha YO STFU
RE: My wife does not want anything fro Christmas, what to do? 12/20/2011 11:45AM - in reply to The Stache Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

The Stache wrote:[quote]

Do you all see what I'm telling you? I basically wrote the same thing above, but in a much less eloquent way. I hate the trap game. I refuse to play it. I don't read minds, and no one should be expected to.


Hey, guys, we've got a real romantic here!

Man, I feel sorry for your wife.
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