I NEED my daughter to get a scholorship..but she likes the ivies

You're the father. Assert some authority.

Sit her down and tell her what you told us. Maybe she will reconsider if she is mature.

If this thread is real, which I doubt, I think it would be pretty easy to guess who your daughter is. That ain't cool.

as a ivy runner, believe it or not, the coaches do have a lot of say in the financial aid process for their top recruits...don't rule out the ivys because of money, itll surprise you how much "financial aid" your daughter could receive if you play your cards right with the coaches

Unless you are really well off, going to Princeton or Harvard is a better scholarship just by getting in and not being rich than she's likely to get at most DI schools. If your family makes 60k or under, she goes for free, anything under six figures and it's still really cheap at those two schools. Look into it.

Have her apply. If she is a good runner, it will help her get in. It won't guarantee it, but it will help. Make sure she contacts the coaches to let them know she is interested.

Most Ivies are committed to meeting full financial "need", so she might get decent financial aid if you need it. Don't forget to include that your wife is unemployed. Most schools have financial aid calculators that will give you and idea.

Maybe she won't get enough money or maybe she won't get it, but if she really wants to go, she (and you) should find out what the numbers will be. It will cost some money to apply, but at least you will know what her options are.

And be realistic with your daughter - explain what you can and cannot afford for school. She should apply to other schools that might be cheaper, but fit her academic needs and athletic goals well.

You never know.

I don't understand. You don't HAVE to pay for her college career. It'll probably make her a tougher, independent individual if she has to pay for her own stuff. Stop babying her and raise a woman. It's just an undergraduate degree, not at all worth stressing about or risking your retirement.

There's actually a huge amount of financial aid at most Ivies. How much do you make? If it's under I think 70k (not sure) you won't have to pay a dime. If your financial situation is bad you might actually be better off sending her to an Ivy.

You guys need to do your research, the top Ivies give great financial aid. Harvard's financial aid office has an online tool where you can estimate your aid.

Given these assumptions:

Citizenship - U.S.

Primary place of residence - NY (for example)

Number of children in college - 1

Number of members in family - 4

Gross parental income - $100,000/year

Real estate assets (ie, the equity on your mortgage) - $100,000

The calculator spits out:

Cost of attendance: $56,300

Estimated scholarship: $44,300

Estimated net price: $12,000

And they break down the $12,000 further to:

Cost to parents: $8,000

Student summer work: $1,500

Student term-time work: $2,500

$8,000 a year for the parents in this scenario. Not bad at all. Change up the assumptions to match your situation and tell us what it comes out to. Here's the link:

http://npc.fas.harvard.edu/

Fdsvgfnbg wrote:

I don't understand. You don't HAVE to pay for her college career. It'll probably make her a tougher, independent individual if she has to pay for her own stuff. Stop babying her and raise a woman. It's just an undergraduate degree, not at all worth stressing about or risking your retirement.

Yep. Pay what you're willing to pay and let her do whatever she wants. What's it to you if she wants to go to an Ivy and is willing to work and/or take out loans to cover the difference?

As a current college student...

Why the heck wouldn't she be paying her own way through school?

This year my family will most likely make less than 100k but a little more than 70k. If I had to estimate I would probably somewhere in the 80k-90k range. I had always thought that unless you were completely poverty stricken, the ivies wouldn't pitch in a dime. Obviously more light will be shed if and when we speak to the coaches.

Ivys are among the most affordable schools in the country.

And to those who ask why I am willing to pay for her schooling at all....

I am her father and it is my job to love and support her. Are you honestly saying I should just send her out into the world alone and not help her at all???

You're looking at a lot of financial aid from places like Harvard and Princeton. Check out their financial aid websites. They've really bumped up the financial aid in the past 5-6 years.

Ivies do tend to give great financial aid. they claim to meet 100% of financial need (Total Cost - Estimated Family Contribution = Total Financial Aid for Ivies)

for example, when I was applying, my EFC was roughly $5,000 a year. so if total cost is $55,000, they would give me $50,000 in financial aid.

Let her apply and see if she gets in and what they give her for financial aid. make sure she has some cheap back up options though, for example, your in-state schools. be honest and tell her you wont pay for her to go anywhere if you cant afford it. it will benefit both you and her in the long run.

Endowments good man. You will not pay a dime for your daughter to go to an Ivy League school and yes, running will get her in.

Have her start mailing running credentials, PSAT, SAT scores,and GPA to Ivy coaches.

If she wants to go you're not stopping her but let her pay the bills. I guarantee she won't miss a class if she's paying the bills.

I'll give advice my sister gave me.

If you have a dream college, apply. It doesn't cost much to apply.

If you don't get in, you don't get in.

If you do get accepted, but don't get enough aid to attend, so be it.

If you do get accepted and get the aid, but can't handle the academics, so be it.

If you don't apply, at age 40 you will always wonder what might have been.