As an intelligent person is it difficult to find a significant other you can tolerate?

No, but as an egotistical person, it is difficult to find a significant other that can tolerate you.

Hmm, I'm dumb as a sack of rocks but I'm pretty successful romantically, so maybe you're right!

-_- wrote:

No, but as an egotistical person, it is difficult to find a significant other that can tolerate you.

Intelligence and egotism aren't synonyms. An intelligent person would know that.

I really have a hard time relating to all you ignants. It is really difficult to be so much more intelligent than everybody else.

talking to children. wrote:

-_- wrote:

No, but as an egotistical person, it is difficult to find a significant other that can tolerate you.

Intelligence and egotism aren't synonyms. An intelligent person would know that.

Yes, but an egotistical person might not.

talking to children. wrote:

Intelligence and egotism aren't synonyms. An intelligent person would know that.

No such claim was made. An intelligent person would know that.

So you don't see the ability to make good conversation as a facet of intelligence? I never knew that communication skills and intelligence were usually exclusive.

So you don't see the ability to make good conversation as a facet of intelligence? I never knew that communication skills and intelligence were mutually exclusive.

reading comprehension wrote:

talking to children. wrote:

Intelligence and egotism aren't synonyms. An intelligent person would know that.

No such claim was made. An intelligent person would know that.

Though you're technically correct, it was implied that because I asked such a question I must be egotistical. Any rational person would know that.

duhhhh wrote:

So you don't see the ability to make good conversation as a facet of intelligence? I never knew that communication skills and intelligence were mutually exclusive.

That's not what I said. A person with good conversation skills would know that.

I know people smarter than you that have flourishing love lives, or just social lives in general. Its really more about social skills and willingness to go out of your way to connect with someone. Yeah, I have had some dumb conversations with girls, but the sex was still good. I may not be as smart as you (although I have no idea), but I consider myself to be fairly intelligent and still capable of relationships. I do understand what you are saying, in terms of finding someone that you could have a real long term relationship with, although its not totally about intelligence as it is about personality, behavior, etc. They can be equally as smart, but have totally weird personalities or behaviors that i cant stand.

If you are truly intelligent then you should be smart enough to work around the situation dont you think? Duh!

talking to children. wrote:

Well?

Intelligence is but a character trait, one of many in fact. If you are including in that term other character traits that seem to naturally correlate with intelligence then the question is not one for which the answer is so obvious. For instance, if someone has a different opinion, are you driven by a need to be right to maintain a sense of superior intelligence within yourself or are you okay admitting other people may have a better perspective on things than you do? I have found that people for whom intelligence is the top priority, as opposed to one of many, are a little one dimensional. Being smart's good, but, if you are unable to have relationships because everyone else is "stupid", intelligence went from a positive character trait to a negative one...with lots of baggage in tow. Be aware I'm not criticizing you in any way whatsoever, but, rather, trying to look at it in a detached way. I went out with a lot of smart girls, but, in the end, my wife and I have very different minds but more compatible overall qualities. We can have a very interesting conversation at times, but, on occasion I have to be content with my thoughts just being something I appreciate by myself. So, you may need to dial down the intelligent part (and the force of opinions that come with it) to find someone to tolerate, otherwise, you'll be a single, smart person with no significant relationships.

Here are two serious questions: 1) is intelligence something you use to protect yourself (think Will Hunting as in "Good Will Hunting") because of fear of intimacy? 2) what is it you cannot tolerate about others who are not intelligent? Try to outline the cause/effect relationships with an emotional element as well. Honestly, if emotion is not involved in your explanation, it's probably not a really solid one. Remember, intolerance comes from frustration and an inability to cope with interpersonal differences; in other words, it's emotionally based.

talking to children. wrote:

Well?

I meant to add, but, hit the enter key too quickly...you can also consider changing oneself. I remember a pretty sharp friend of mine from college harassing me about my classes. She gave me crap because I would get less than expected grades. She told me I needed to adapt to the situation. I was too insecure and felt I needed to defend my opinions rather than demonstrate I simply understood the material as put forth by the teacher. I always had trouble when they said give your opinion. Well, if you want my opinion, it then becomes a debate where critical analysis is valid on both sides. If you want me to simple regurgitate your opinions that's another story. Stubbornness has always been one of my flaws. But, when you put another name on it, like perseverance, it then looks like a positive.

By the way, my simple answer to your question is no. But, when you go from intelligent to genius, it's a wholly different world, with each step along the scale increasing the complexity of the proposition and decreasing the odds of a successful relationship in proportion to the measure of genius one has. Of course even that goes out the window when charisma and character match the levels of intelligence. Not all geniuses are socially inept although many presuppose it to be a necessary condition of ultrahigh intelligence.

As an intelligent person I am certain you wouldn't understand.

As an outstanding intellectual, do you find it difficult to relate to humanity?

Your wife's a dumb@ss.

My take on the OPs question probably has to do with being able to relate to one another and have stimulating conversations. I, for one, feel that it's rare to find girls who like to talk about science, politics, philosophy, or anything outside of pop culture/fashion. Honestly, at this point I've given up on finding someone who is "intelligent," and just look for good conversationalists or someone who has passion for what they do.

What in the world does intelligence have to do with being hot and good in bed?!?!? Being an athletic verile male that most women find completely irresistable I could not care less about the intelligence of the woman I am 'doing'. Although I am extremely intelligent I don't really care about intelligence of the lucky women I choose to bed down with. I just give them 9 inches of pleasure and send them on their merry way.

I WORK OUT!!!