Girl told me that because she weighs more than me (140lbs) I'm too small for her,must not understand that I am a runner?

I grew up in Europe and, at the time, was attracted to thin (elegant) men. Height didn't matter. Now that I live in the US, my tastes have changed somewhat and I don't think I would be attracted to a man who is too skinny, IN GENERAL. Like many posters have said, "it all depends." What's attractive is confidence, intelligence, mental fortitude, drive, kindness, etc.

Cheerio, have a burger (joking).

msuspartaner wrote:

Oh Rick......she really doesn't care if you are scrawny....she was just being polite. She isn't interested in you because of some other flaw that you have....but didn't want to hurt your feelings, so she picked something that you won't do anything about. On the other hand, women really do not care for guys who are totally obsessed with their scrawny bodies...it is not attractive.

not always true....I had a girl on my college track team with me that always used to tell me she would date me in a second if I wasnt so much smaller than her. She was a hammer thrower and about 6'3", and I being the 5'10" 125lbs distance guy. And I never really hit on her or asked her out...she would just say that, especially after a few beers. :P

stuck with match.com wrote:

140 is not a porker. 190+ is porker range.

140 is a porkee

Rick Ross like latina girls?

themanontherun

Power is masculine, not body type. Body type is just one way of demonstrating power, and thereby masculinity.

that might be the most sexist thing i've ever read on this website

Yes, skinny male distance runners have a smaller pool of women to date.

But least you are a guy and your pool will increase over time.

Women in general have an edge for a limited time while they are young and then lose that edge forever.

Betty Freidan wrote:

that might be the most sexist thing i've ever read on this website

You might wanna re-read The Feminine Mystique.

my boyfriend is faster than u wrote:

Nope def not ugly. I get told im beautiful by random strangers, dating a top 15 NCAA runner, and model part time.

nice assumption though.

now you just sound like an ugly bitch, or a wacked out gay guy.

I get over the looks part real fast...be nicer and less egotistical please

X-Runner wrote:

Yes, skinny male distance runners have a smaller pool of women to date.

But least you are a guy and your pool will increase over time.

Women in general have an edge for a limited time while they are young and then lose that edge forever.

+1

tell Stuck with match.com to cheer up because he'll have much better options going forward of ladies who aren't 180 pounds

Attitude is everything wrote:

Think of being thin as an asset. Never view your physical self negatively. If a woman isn't into you don't waste a second thinking about it. It's how you come across that is probably the most important thing.

Also women are strange, many women may initially think a guy isn't all that hot but there's something about him that intrigues them---confidence, charm, intelligence, some interesting life experience, whatever. It makes them want to know more. Most women get over the looks part faster than men do.

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Seriously, do you think if Mick Jagger was a plumber girls would throw themselves at him? Steven Tyler? These are ugly, ugly, people. But they can get laid anywhere, anytime. It's because they have wealth, fame and power.

The same is true about 'attitude is everything' post. you need to be you, and not let someone dictate how you act.

themanontherun

Power is masculine, not body type. Body type is just one way of demonstrating power, and thereby masculinity.

Betty Freidan wrote:

that might be the most sexist thing i've ever read on this website

A man with power = abuser

Never let men assume power in your relationship. If a man has power outside the relationship, make sure you keep them in place by pointing out their imperfections.

This is the secret to a woman's happiness.

quote]marion davies wrote:

my boyfriend is faster than u wrote:

Nope def not ugly. I get told im beautiful by random strangers, dating a top 15 NCAA runner, and model part time.

nice assumption though.

now you just sound like an ugly bitch, or a wacked out gay guy.

I get over the looks part real fast...be nicer and less egotistical please[/quote]

Nah, HAHA, YO alreadyc alled out who it was, but it all got deleted.[

Betty Freidan wrote:

that might be the most sexist thing i've ever read on this website

You must be new around here.

word to the wise wrote:

A man with power = abuser

Never let men assume power in your relationship. If a man has power outside the relationship, make sure you keep them in place by pointing out their imperfections.

This is the secret to a woman's happiness.

Though I disagree with this, I would like to point out that even if this is true, it doesn't negate my earlier point. Power is considered masculine, regardless of whether that bodes well for the woman in a relationship. And women are attracted to power, regardless of whether that means they must suffer an abusive relationship. Women will makes tremendous sacrifices to be with a man who exhibits power, be it physical, monetary, political, social, etc.

themanontherun wrote:

Though I disagree with thiis I would like to point out that even if this is true, it doesn't negate my earlier point. Power is considered masculine, regardless of whether that bodes well for the woman in a relationship. And women are attracted to power, regardless of whether that means they must suffer an abusive relationship. Women will makes tremendous sacrifices to be with a man who exhibits power, be it physical, monetary, political, social, etc.

I agree most women are attracted to power. Most women are miserable because of it. Hence my advice that women keep men in their place.

Word to the wise wrote:

I agree most women are attracted to power. Most women are miserable because of it. Hence my advice that women keep men in their place.

I don't know about 'keeping men in their place,' but I think having a healthy sense of their own identity, and not feeling dependent on deriving a sense of identity from a man would be a good thing for most women.

Not that it backs my point, but I think it's relevant, that an interesting interpretation of gender roles comes from the Biblical Adam and Eve story. Woman is created from man... she literally takes her identity from her husband. Adam, though the central figure, is an incomplete being without his wife by his side. He can surround himself with Paradise (Eden) but he is still unfulfilled and incomplete without Eve.

I think it's a good thing that women are finding their own identities more and more, and it's making relationships in this day and age much healthier as a whole, but keep in mind that as women become more independent, there remain fewer reasons for men to believe in marriage, or even monogamy within a regular relationship.

yes i hear being a good runner is the new money - it is what women everywhere are lining up fordouche

my boyfriend is faster than u wrote:

Nope def not ugly. I get told im beautiful by random strangers, dating a top 15 NCAA runner, and model part time.

nice assumption though.

She looks kinda like this:

http://pix.motivatedphotos.com/2009/6/12/633803626792550145-latinas.jpg

Hope that helps.

suuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeee she does!