Tell me if I was wrong here....

No you weren't out of line! A joke is a joke and people need to realize that.

Was I out of line for peeing in the sink?

wow, your family have no souls apparently

Yeah, you were wrong.

When someone is sharing the joy with their engagement, it is not a time to make a joke at their expense.

Your joke was actually a negative comment disguised as a joke.

"There's truth in every jest."

Basically you were an ahole.

yeah yes duh wrote:

Yeah, you were wrong.

When someone is sharing the joy with their engagement, it is not a time to make a joke at their expense.

Your joke was actually a negative comment disguised as a joke.

"There's truth in every jest."

Basically you were an ahole.

This person is right.

yeah yes duh wrote:

Yeah, you were wrong.

When someone is sharing the joy with their engagement, it is not a time to make a joke at their expense.

Your joke was actually a negative comment disguised as a joke.

"There's truth in every jest."

Basically you were an ahole.

Whatever. All rules go out the window when you post the damn thing on Facebook.

michael?! wrote:

yeah yes duh wrote:

Yeah, you were wrong.

When someone is sharing the joy with their engagement, it is not a time to make a joke at their expense.

Your joke was actually a negative comment disguised as a joke.

"There's truth in every jest."

Basically you were an ahole.

This person is right.

Agreed.

Dude, you were not in the wrong. Women are f*cking nuts and they go even more crazy around times of marriage, babies, etc. Lesson learned

Sorry but yes you were wrong. Maybe it would not have been wrong for somebody else or in a different situation.

When you make a public edgy joke like that you have to anticipate and project how it will be received by the person. Obviously you were wrong in your assessment.

Your friend was probably just looking for confirmation that the nonconventional ring selection was beautiful (why else would she post the picture). She might even have had some hidden anxieties about the selection.

The other poster was right about the "truth in jest" comment. Seriously, why didn't you just say the ring was beautiful like I'm guessing that you knew your friend wanted to hear?

You said you were sorry (but was it sincere or was it the type of "I'm sorry and didn't realize you would be so sensitive" type of apology) now move on. If your first apology wasn't good email her and just tell her your still thinking about your stupid comment and that sometimes you say things without thinking and you really love the ring. Tell how mad everyone is at you.

In one week it will be a nonissue.

Facebook is nothing more than a diary for mad women. I know how you feel. Impersonal jokes can be perceived as truth. I am sure at most you are a jokester type personality, however this lady was unaware of this, and her first reaction was to think you are a evil insensitive person. Too bad for the guy who marries her.

smitty greaseballs wrote: I am sure at most you are a jokester type personality, however this lady was unaware of this, and her first reaction was to think you are a evil insensitive person. Too bad for the guy who marries her.

Montrealais wrote:

... good riddance to the guy that is marrying her, he'll need it.

translation pls

Just don't joke about the PNSO.

Wait until she posts a picture of the wedding dress, and add the comment "A white wedding, I don't think so....;). And where did you get that rag, in a charity shop?!?" Then she'll see the funny side and you'll be friends again.

Out of line. ALWAYS take the high road regarding anything related to a wedding or funeral.

It just makes you look bad.

Remember Owen Wilson's advice in "Wedding Crashers," he said, "... crickets ... "

When it comes to this stuff always speak from the heart.

Mr. Conundrum wrote:

Your friend was probably just looking for confirmation that the nonconventional ring selection was beautiful (why else would she post the picture). She might even have had some hidden anxieties about the selection.

The other poster was right about the "truth in jest" comment. Seriously, why didn't you just say the ring was beautiful like I'm guessing that you knew your friend wanted to hear?

You said you were sorry (but was it sincere or was it the type of "I'm sorry and didn't realize you would be so sensitive" type of apology) now move on.

In one week it will be a nonissue.

First of all, it's already been a week. Second, this is a close relative, not just a friend. I hadn't thought about her having hidden anxieties about the ring selection. You may be dead on there. My e-mailed apology to her was sincere and serious and told her how beautiful the ring is and I still got the scolding and the "I'm over it", rather than a simple acceptance of the apology. She concluded that if she had made the same comment to me 2 years ago when I got engaged that I would have been pissed. On the contrary, I'd have said, "Nah, he got it from a Crackerjack box!" Because the joy of the engagement would have overshadowed anything. We've clearly mis-judged each other's senses of humor. It did not help that another family member (in-law) obnoxiously commented right after my first remark to the effect of: "How would your husband know if the ring came from a gumball machine unless he's working now at the grocery store".

I'm hoping that it will now be a non-issue (though I really enjoyed that poster's comment about the white wedding dress! That's something I would find funny - and now I know she would not).

I think the joke itself is fine, especially since it was from one guy to another (Mr. M to the groom-to-be), BUT you were in the wrong for a number of reasons...

One, you did it on facebook. What would have been a fine joke at the dinner table or over some drinks turned into a mean spirited public humiliation. Honestly, I bet other people who read your joke were embarrassed-for-you by your comment. I don't say that to be mean, I honestly think from an objective perspective that I would have cringed at reading that.

Two, it has to do with her wedding. Sure, we can all say that people should relax, it is just a stupid piece of metal. In truth, it has some meaning to it. Regardless of what you think, always take the high road when it comes to weddings, funerals and babies. A good rule to follow.

Now, why she posted picture of her ring to facebook is beyond me, that just seems tacky... I guess you could say that she brought this upon herself but that does not exscuse you.

Just empathize, apologize and get on with life.

See "close relative"... if a close relative can't take a joke they can go fly a kite. There's nothing wrong with what she said.

"it is not a time to make a joke"

That's complete bullshit. If my father can make a joke at his father's funeral, I doubt there's another time that's inappropriate to joke about something. You're too uptight.

see it my way wrote:

Montrealais wrote:

... good riddance to the guy that is marrying her, he'll need it.

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You shut your mouth when you're talking to me!

you are wrong wrote:

See "close relative"... if a close relative can't take a joke they can go fly a kite. There's nothing wrong with what she said.

"it is not a time to make a joke"

That's complete bullshit. If my father can make a joke at his father's funeral, I doubt there's another time that's inappropriate to joke about something. You're too uptight.

See, IMHO, the joke is fine, actually kind of funny. A good ribbing. But to put that on facebook - where it is seen by hundreds of people, out of context, and branded there forever under her picture - takes it too far.

I imagine the joke about your grandfather wouldn't be as funny if it had been placed under his obituary in lieu of a memorial.

People need to understand the etiquette of Social Media.