Anybody else 40 and not married?

maybe you're gay?

No I'm not but when you get this age people start thinking that. Some of the blunt questions or comments I get from people I don't know that well are amazing.

Are you dating?...Are you looking?.....Why aren't you married?.....Now days anything goes

I almost feel like lying to people.

Don't knock divorcees w/kids (just don't knock them up :)

"Sketchy" with dating a grown woman? Dude you have issues that can't be dealt with on a running message board.

Put more energy into getting some serious non-relationship goals in your life and spend less time thinking about what people might be thinking (I guarantee a lot of the married people are secretly envious, especially if they are pressuring you or mocking you).

people question even more why a woman is 40 and not married.....

my advice though....enjoy your life, don't bother looking

No, but I likely will be. Not a big deal, beats settling and raising kids. Just find some regular social functions to meet friends. I'd rather never be married than be one of those dips who marries only to get divorced. Seems like a dumb ritual that only costs you money that could have been spent on really worthwhile things, such as traveling or education or a mail-order bride.

say its not so wrote:

No I'm not but when you get this age people start thinking that. Some of the blunt questions or comments I get from people I don't know that well are amazing.

Are you dating?...Are you looking?.....Why aren't you married?.....Now days anything goes

I almost feel like lying to people.

Simply tell them, "no, I'm happy with myself and not co-dependent."

Not surprisingly, a very large percentage of those 40+ and even 30-35+ not married are gay. Gays don't normally marry. So what if you are gay or aren't? If it isn't a problem for you it should not be a problem for anyone else.

Live and let live.

Nice that you'd have that kind of data right at your fingertips. Not that there's anything wrong with that!

Sometimes it's good, sometimes it's not.

To the OP:

I am only 28, but I also feel sketchy dating girls in the 22-23 age range.

I dated one for a short while not too long ago... Not a lot in common at all..it was a lot like being on "The Hills" or high school in general.

say its not so wrote:

The last women (girl) I dated for a few months was 23!

That's awesome, dude. I will take relationships seriously when I am around your age. Lots of successful guys have done that. John McCain, Clint Eastwood...

I didn't get married until I was 42, to a woman who was 27. Very happy.

Marriage is entirely irrational in most ways, and so the older you get, the more rational you become, and the wisdom of it starts to evaporate.

The reasons anybody likes being married >40 are very different than the reasons when they were <30.

I'm on my way...mid 30s. Dating a virgin right now, if you can believe that. Will I hang in, marry her, and pop the cherry? Stay tuned.

I'm 41 and not married. I've been with my boyfriend for several years, but he doesn't want to get married. I thought I was OK with that, and just realized that I am not. Not sure what to do. He's a great guy but I don't like to feel so uncertain about the future.

Just turned 50. After having a great relationship and then hwatching it end, I simply prepared myself for being single for the durtion.

Plus the older I get, the more I realize that a dog is a man's best friend!

same here wrote:

I'm 41 and not married. I've been with my boyfriend for several years, but he doesn't want to get married. I thought I was OK with that, and just realized that I am not. Not sure what to do. He's a great guy but I don't like to feel so uncertain about the future.

your bf is smart.. the only reason women marry is to divorce their husbands

yes.

you guys... wrote:

maybe you're gay?

Maybe?!

RTI wrote:No, but I likely will be.

Agreed. Anyone who will post a dozen times to argue that a 13:15 5K runner should never, ever be referred to as a "stud" has enough issues that even the most desperate woman will smell danger.