this is a long post because im lonely and looking for help.
lol, that goes on the list of things u can only say on an anonymous message board.
first to answer the poll- yes, we are in the minority. i only know one other virgin who is 21, at least one who has told me. maybe there are more that i dont know about. . .
i am a 22yr old virgin. running and the few good friends i have are basically the only thing holding me together right now and i feel like im going to crack soon.
when a girl shows interest, which does actually happen sometimes, i usually dont know how to switch the topic off school or mundane crap because i put it on the pedastol. when i do make a move it is followed by brutal rejection or fake numbers because i lose their interest after a few seconds, sometimes up to a minute i can last if im feeling RELATIVELY relaxed and confident. when i dont make a specefic move and the situatioin unfolds i just hit this total akward stage where i feel completely defeated and just want to get out of the situation as fast as i can, which is usually followed by massive, massive, depression and sometimes sobering up. basically, i think i need to develop my game, but advice from my friends thus far havent helped. my friends say they will go out and help me, but when it comes down to it, their just wrapped up in their own game and dont give a ** about me or they just dont know how to help. any constructive input is nice, plz help.
my friend says not to make crossing the threshold of friend/acquitance to dating/gf a big deal. he said to make it more casual and not korny, like suggesting a study session or something. but i havent tried that because all i will talk about is school and dont know how to cross that line. i dont even know what the line looks like, is it vague?, is it thin?, no idea. i think i need to relax and think friend, but that seems IMPOSSIBLE to me right now.
anyways, im going to ask this girl ive been talking to in one of my classes if she wants to study together. i actually want this one to work because i kinda like her, which doesnt happen that often because i usually shut off. im gonna wait til the final because most likely it will just be hela akward after. ive talked about school and some of her hobbies thus far. nothing that personal, and usually in a situation where we are waiting for class to start or im walking with her to the parking lot. i really do think she is interested but have generally been trying to avoid her until i have a gameplan.i know im making it a bigger deal than it should be. plz help. im graduating soon and really want to get over this. all i need is a start and i know ill be fine afterwards, but i just cant seem to sack up and do it.