There is this girl who lives in my dorm (about 100 kids) and we flirt quite a bit. I'm going to ask her out on a "date." I was thinking a movie in my room, which would probably lead to some making-out? Good idea? Bad idea?
There is this girl who lives in my dorm (about 100 kids) and we flirt quite a bit. I'm going to ask her out on a "date." I was thinking a movie in my room, which would probably lead to some making-out? Good idea? Bad idea?
GREAT IDEA
dude, if you're gonna ask her out on a "date" at least take her somewhere first. Maybe try dinner or going to a movie at the theater. Or you could be creative and take her somewhere interesting, somewhere that you would enjoy. If things go well you could bring her back to your room afterwards. Just my opinion.
Man, 100 kids?! How old is this girl?
are you a freshman?
nobody goes out on dates in college... go to a party with her, both of you will have a few drinks... it it is right you will 'hook up'
take it from there
at the most, say -
i'm headed to this so and so party on friday night, interested in going with me?
Oh boy! A girls dream come true! Watching and eighties era movie with some creepie, touchy-feely guy in a dingy college dorm.
anEconomist wrote:
are you a freshman?
nobody goes out on dates in college... go to a party with her, both of you will have a few drinks... it it is right you will 'hook up'
take it from there
at the most, say -
i'm headed to this so and so party on friday night, interested in going with me?
listen to this guy. it will be way more relaxed hanging out for the first time at a party where there are a lot of other people (not to mention a bit of liquid courage). it'll also not seem as akward to ask her to go to a party than it would be to ask her to hang out in your room one on one.
save the movie for when you're ready to go in for the kill (if you haven't already after the party...)
mr sandman wrote:
There is this girl who lives in my dorm (about 100 kids) and we flirt quite a bit. I'm going to ask her out on a "date." I was thinking a movie in my room, which would probably lead to some making-out? Good idea? Bad idea?
This has to be the funniest post I've seen in a while. I seriosuly can't stop laughing!
Are you seriously going to take a girl to your room for a date and expect some action. Get real!
If that's your plan (making out in your room) you've got to go off campus and eat somewhere or something, then go back to your room to watch a movie. Tell her you're going to take her out to eat and that the two of you are just going to "wing it" and see where the night takes you.
She'll totally know what you're intentions are, but will be glad that you're going to put some effort into her and not treat her like some common street walking whore!
Good Luck!
P.S. Don't forget some condoms! Buy some Magnum XL's and leave them on your desk to stir her curiousity...
Hey, if you really are interested in seeing this girl there is one simple rule of thumb to play with women.
Most women go through life without ever having a man actually take them out on a date for the first time, if ever. Most men just half ass it in regards to effort and the women deal with it.
By date, I mean to take her to a restaurant (not McDonalds, mind you...) and then a movie. Trust me, most women don't get this common respect and if you follow through with actually taking her out on a real date, she's almost a sure bag.
Also, be a gentleman and control your hormones the first time out. It will pay you HUGE dividends in the future as she will think (I say think, because I know you really won't) respect her for who she is, not just want some action.
This has worked my entire life... women are easy if you know how they work!
Rules to follow when hooking up.
1. Bring her on a real date. And not just once... but on a regular basis.
2. Ask questions about her, LISTEN to her and follow her lead while talking. Remember specifics and ask her about those topics later. Always listen more than you talk.
3. Don't be too physical at the beginning, women want a relationship before they get to kissing otherwise they feel like a cheap whore and you don't want to deal with that emotional drama.
4. Find things she is interested in and talk about and do those activities. It's not all about you man.
5. Don't ignore her around your friends. Introduce her and let her know she is important due to your actions.
Those are just a few. I wish I knew at least these few rules when I was a Freshman... I didn't figure it out till I was a Junior in College. But hey, once I figured out women psychology.... life has been VERY good!!!!
Best of luck and always wear protection when the time comes to get freaky!!!!
Oh, smile and make eye contact too.... no one likes a guy who looks at the ground or avoids eye contact. Laugh too, women love guys who make them laugh!
Got to agree with Diego Boy. Take her out to eat somewhere semi-casual - maybe for pizza/italian, whatever. Then you can proceed in one of two ways:
1) Meet up with some mutual friends at a party or bar. Follow this up with a movie in your dorm room.
2) Just head back to your dorm after dinner to watch a movie.
Either option gets pretty similar results. However, the alcohol from option 1 definitely helps things out.
I have found that "no anal" is a good first date rule to follow religiously.
Take her to Applebees and then pick up a movie afterward (pick it out together) and watch it in your room.
very very good advice...
Mr. McGuire wrote:
Take her to Applebees and then pick up a movie afterward (pick it out together) and watch it in your room.
Perfect! This is almost guarenteed to get down to the undies. BUT if you do get there...don't try to take it all the way. Give her and yourself a little respect and at least hold out for date number 2 or 3.
I repeat who the hell 'dates' in college... more than anything a girl at my college would have thought it weird to be asked out on an official date
I can see it all now, this is gonna be just like last summer. You fell in love with that girl at the Fotomat, you bought forty dollars worth of f***in' film, and you never even talked to her. You don't even own a camera.
Some more advice for you...
First of all Rat, you never let on how much you like a girl. "Oh, Debbie. Hi." Two, you always call the shots. "Kiss me. You won't regret it." Now three, act like wherever you are, that's the place to be. "Isn't this great?" Four, when ordering food, you find out what she wants, then order for the both of you. It's a classy move. "Now, the lady will have the linguini and white clam sauce, and a Coke with no ice." And five, now this is the most important, Rat. When it comes down to making out, whenever possible, put on side one of Led Zeppelin IV.
I'll make it easy for you. Follow these steps:
1) Obtain her father's permission to court her.
2) Send her a letter requesting her company to the formal ball held on local estate by powerful family.
3) Dance with her respectfully.
4) Compose sonnets declaring your unrequited love.
5) Repeat steps 2-4 until marriage ensues.
A more important question might be why are you asking for personal/social advice on a running forum. Next time, ask Oprah or Dr Phil.