Bump for a very serious and very human thread.
Bump for a very serious and very human thread.
Bump for a very serious and very human thread.
Timely bump. I never read much of this thread, but holy crap, pregnancy and breastfeeding have caused significant shut off to afflict my marriage. Was this covered in the thread in any depth?
Yikes! I'm here alone watching Netflix...🖥🙃
Recently divorced wrote:
Yikes! I'm here alone watching Netflix...🖥🙃
Watching the History of the Eagles documentary on Netflix tonight. Wife in bed.
Different Name 3 wrote:
Timely bump. I never read much of this thread, but holy crap, pregnancy and breastfeeding have caused significant shut off to afflict my marriage. Was this covered in the thread in any depth?
Lol. I bet the kids were her idea and you didn't bother to research the consequences.
It's too late now.
To be fair, this is an important bonding time between the baby and her if everything is working right. You are out of her picture for about a year. Be a good husband and father and help whenever you can. It comes back to you.
If you are lucky, things will be different later, but you'll get busy again, eventually.
You had better learn what the next phase of your life is going to be like while you aren't getting any! Learn about child development ASAP! You are going to need it.
My wife and I have been together for 30 years. For the past eight or nine years we’ve averaged about four times per week, even when we had kids in the house. Now both are out of the house. Average is still the same.
The more we talk about things—anything—the easier it is to get her into it.
The more we share things, the more willing she is to get excited about sex.
The more we laugh, the better the sex.
My wife committed to sex as one of the important things that would keep us together. I remind myself frequently how fortunate I am in that regard. It’s not always been as great as it is now—we have had to work at it, both of us.
Longtime getter wrote:
My wife committed to sex as one of the important things that would keep us together. I remind myself frequently how fortunate I am in that regard. It’s not always been as great as it is now—we have had to work at it, both of us.
That's great.
Maybe she can explain it to the millions of American marriages trapped in PNSO.
Not that anyone would listen. The trap of doing nothing for 1001 reasons and being fully committed maintaining those 1001 reasons for PNSO is a particularly cruel feature of PNSO.
Now with data: Women 'more likely to lose interest in sex than men'
This thread needs a bump. It's been cold in Boston this week.
But there was a wife here last week saying 4 times/week + 2 "other" episodes was all she could do...
tired and frustrated wrote:
She is quitting her teaching job this year after 10+ years. Is tired and wants some time off to do something else. Fine. I will keep working my full time job, plus the part time consulting gig I have. But after you quit, if I don't get it every other day, something's gonna change.
No. Do not let her quit her job. It's clear you need to move on and divorce is expensive. If she's not working at all, that divorce just got a lot more expensive. Do not let her quit. You need to quit your jobs and live off of her for a bit then when you are financially dependent on her, leave her for a woman who will have sex with you. Then the reality is she will be paying you to sleep with other women. Think ahead man!
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this thread confirms Catholic Social Teaching. thanks everyone!
Longtime getter wrote:
My wife and I have been together for 30 years. For the past eight or nine years we’ve averaged about four times per week, even when we had kids in the house. Now both are out of the house. Average is still the same.
The more we talk about things—anything—the easier it is to get her into it.
The more we share things, the more willing she is to get excited about sex.
The more we laugh, the better the sex.
My wife committed to sex as one of the important things that would keep us together. I remind myself frequently how fortunate I am in that regard. It’s not always been as great as it is now—we have had to work at it, both of us.
That was me. Good news for Mr. and Mrs. Happy: we are still getting it on just as frequently. Lord I’m glad she committed to it.
Glad to hear it! God bless.
I will tell my story. Married ten years with one child. We do it twice a year like clockwork, a broken clock.
I have given up on initiating. I have accepted the fact that this is the way it will always be.
I live in a place where businesses will help you with this lack of physical contact. The businesses are plentiful and socially acceptable in this culture. I have used these services but have stopped because I don't feel good about it for some reason. Is it better to just accept my situation that I will no longer have physical intimacy in my life or is it ok to partake in the services that are as readily available.