Post-nuptial shutoff?

Oddity wrote:

I asked my wife if there is anything that she is lacking and the answer was "no". I talk with her, go on vacations, take care of our child, make good money, work out, clean, give her workout time and go out with friends time.

I then asked her if it was unfair if I have sex with a woman whom I work with. If sex is not important to her, then it is not cheating. The consequences of me doing someone else are hers alone. She was pissed and reverted to the argument that " all you want is sex"

I really don't see how you guys put up with that shit. I really don't. From my perception, it just seems like she is completely controlling the relationship and has no regard whatsoever for your needs. Maybe I'm wrong. For what it's worth, you have my admiration for your dedication and perseverance.

Just going to be honest wrote:

Is it possible she is no longer attracted to you guys?

Of course, that's what they all say. And within a year they won't be attracted to the next guy any longer either. It's just a never ending merry go round.

rabbit hole wrote:

Phrases Have Meanings wrote:

It's "delusions" of grandeur.

Your welcome.

Seriously? "Your" welcome?

Haven't ben a round hear to much have ewe?

Not that that's a bad thing.

Louie Napoleon wrote:

Good question. Yes, she is post menopausal.

And yes, many of my long time married friends are going through the same deal.

And yes, if I were suddenly flung back in time, I would not marry again.

This^ concerns me more than any other concern. My girlfriend and I are mid-forties, have been dating for 5+ years. She is beautiful, always trim/fit with minimal excercise, we laugh our asses off all the time, my 2 kids adore her and the sex is fantastic. At times, she is even more focused on sex than me, which I did not think was possible. We live separately and spend most weekends together. At 47, I am wondering if that is going to dry up in a few years?

The last of her kids are off to college next year, and I am thinking it is a good time to get married, she has been extremely patient. I want to keep her happy, but it would be terrible if the sex ended. In my first marriage, it slowed quite a bit by year 12, but was not really a causal factor in the break-up.

Why get married at all? Sounds like your children and hers are close to independence. Is there really any overwhelming reason to get married at this point? Why not retain your independence and enjoy the bliss.

I just read this thread about 30 minutes ago, and jumped on my wife as she was reading in bed. I just started kissing and it wasn't long before I was inside. Damn good. Be more assertive. Pretend like you give a damn. Bite your tongue and let her think she's right once in awhile.

GET SOME wrote:

I just read this thread about 30 minutes ago, and jumped on my wife as she was reading in bed. I just started kissing and it wasn't long before I was inside. Damn good. Be more assertive. Pretend like you give a damn. Bite your tongue and let her think she's right once in awhile.

If I tried that with my wife, she would most certainly call the police.

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Why get married at all? Sounds like your children and hers are close to independence. Is there really any overwhelming reason to get married at this point? Why not retain your independence and enjoy the bliss.[/quote]

There are some benefits, but the only overwhelming one is that this is a major emotional need of women and they have come to expect it, almost universally, because of how they are raised. For women it's not about logic, it's about romance and emotions. I probably would not be attracted to a woman who was all logic.

Been There, Done That wrote:

GET SOME wrote:

I just read this thread about 30 minutes ago, and jumped on my wife as she was reading in bed. I just started kissing and it wasn't long before I was inside. Damn good. Be more assertive. Pretend like you give a damn. Bite your tongue and let her think she's right once in awhile.

If I tried that with my wife, she would most certainly call the police.

I think too many guys are too damn passive and need to ACT in a way that screwing is just expected. None of this asking for sex crap.

I'm a woman and you are totally right about how we expect to get married because of how we are raised. But how do you know your g/f even wants to get married, especially at her age? Maybe she's more logical than you think and doesn't see the point? Because honestly if you already have grown kids and things are great the way they are, what IS the point? If it's not broken......

GET SOME wrote:

I just read this thread about 30 minutes ago

Since you started your post with a lie ^ it is only logical to assume that the rest of your post is nothing but lies.

Try to gain more credibility next time by easing into your lying mode.

GET SOME wrote:

, and jumped on my wife as she was reading in bed. I just started kissing and it wasn't long before I was inside. Damn good. Be more assertive. Pretend like you give a damn. Bite your tongue and let her think she's right once in awhile.

Honest truth dude. Sure I've read the thread in the past, but just checked letsrun for over a month. I came across the thread since people had recently commented. I closed my computer and went to my wife who was reading in the bedroom. Dude, I can't help it if you don't like the truth. I don't need credibility from. Believe it or not, I GOT SOME....

GET SOME wrote:

Honest truth dude. Sure I've read the thread in the past, but just checked letsrun for over a month. I came across the thread since people had recently commented. I closed my computer and went to my wife who was reading in the bedroom. Dude, I can't help it if you don't like the truth. I don't need credibility from. Believe it or not, I GOT SOME....

Right on brother!

GET SOME wrote:

Dude, I can't help it if you don't like the truth. I don't need credibility from. Believe it or not, I GOT SOME....

This cannot possibly be true. For one thing, there is no such thing as women, or vaginas. The whole thing is made up. I know this because I'm part of the disinformation campaign. Vaginas, sex, and women as we have been conditioned to desire from media images don't exist as such and never have. The entities masquerading as women know this too, which is why they go through so much trouble to remain so elusive. Put on the sunglasses, dude!

Bump for 20 weeks with no action!!!! WEEEEEE!!!! Thinking I can make it to summer with no action from the wife.

New Years Eve - no action!

Valentines Day - yeah right!

Last week - tried to, she just looked at me with blank stare, nothing!

Birthday is coming up in April - and you can bet I will be ignored! no action!

Anniversary in May - hey, we didn't do the nasty last year for our anniversary and WE WERE ON VACATION! Why should I expect anything wonderful on our 3rd anniversary!

NEVER GET MARRIED.

NEVER GET MARRIED.

NEVER GET MARRIED.

I think there is more to just jumping on your wife and getting some. Is it possible you are doing something right outside of the bedroom too? Sounds like she is happy with you which makes her feel good and therefore wants you too. Unlike men, women respond positively in the bedroom when they are treated well outside of it.

but i need to stop visiting this thread.

What about getting a divorce?

This issue isnt even marriage specifically but ratherliving together.

Dont fix what aint broke. You live separately and things are great. Good. Leave it that way.