Pages: | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 | 18 | 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 | 25 | 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 | 30 | 31 | 32 | 33 | 34 | 35 | 36 | 37 | 38 | 39 | 40 | 41 | 42 | 43 | 44 | 45 | 46 | 47 | 48 | 49 | 50 | 51 | 52 | 53 | 54 | 55 | 56 | 57 | 58 | 59 | 60 | 61 | 62 |
irony killed the cat
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 9/25/2010 8:20PM - in reply to 1000 Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
errrr, beat me to it
Mr. Obvious
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 11/29/2010 12:25PM - in reply to irony killed the cat Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Headed into the last month of the year. Wonder if any of the letsrunners are still an 0-fer the year.
yup!!
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/23/2010 9:07PM - in reply to Mr. Obvious Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
yup...been a long, long time pour moi

however THREE couples I know (2 married) called it quits this year

scary stuff, so I consider myself somewhat lucky

this is a GREAT THREAD
close enough
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/23/2010 9:19PM - in reply to Mr. Obvious Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

Mr. Obvious wrote:

Headed into the last month of the year. Wonder if any of the letsrunners are still an 0-fer the year.


Four times in 2010, all in September. I hope she doesn't wonder why I love my xbox.
need. data
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/24/2010 7:16PM - in reply to close enough Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
thank you for all for helping this thread reach the 1000 mark, and I'm glad so many were able to contribute and offer advise

Merry Christmas
More booty
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/24/2010 7:20PM - in reply to need. data Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Great year for me. Got it probably 75 times. Married more than 20 years.
belly laugh
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/24/2010 8:23PM - in reply to KT Perry #1 Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

KT Perry #1 wrote:

So I don't have time to read all of this but have a question....

I have an amazing wife and we have an amazing marriage, but what in the hell do you do when she doesn't want to have sex except for maybe 2-3 times a month? We don't argue about this or anything. I make my usual attempts but do not pressure or try to persuade her if I get "The Heisman." I treat her as best as I can, and the sex we do have is amazing to say the least and she thoroughly enjoys it. Yes, women can be good at faking it, but I can obviously tell she enjoys it without having to go into much detail. So what do I do. I know "getting married was your first mistake" blah blah blah. But seriously, I KNOW marriage is not all about sex. I KNOW this. But when a man has his desires and he has to hold back so much from the one he loves unconditionally, what do you do?!?!?!?!?!!? Our marriage is perfect besides the lack of sex. Go ahead with the funny comments, I enjoy a good laugh, but would also enjoy some REAL insight.


Your post resonated with me. I've got more or less the same kind of marriage and I would have written more or less the same post as you, EXCEPT: 2-3 times a month would be great! That would be a lot more than I'm getting. How about 2-3 times every three months? That's where she and I are.

When we have sex, it's amazing. We got married late: we've been married six and a half years. I'm 52, she's almost 50. She's cute as hell, sexy, sweet, kind. I hit the jackpot. She gave me a wonderful son, who is almost five.

But: not nearly enough sex, by ANY normal calculation. She's going through menopause. She gets hot flashes. She just doesn't feel like it very often. We love each other, we get along great, there's no intrinsic tension in the relationship. What's not to like? Except the sex is....rare.

I'm a highly sexed guy. I need more. She understands this. She's concerned, too.

I've been faithful to her, if by "faithful" you mean that I haven't been with anybody else. But a guy has needs, and if by "faithful" you mean "never, ever consorts with internet porn," I'm afraid I've flagrantly violated our vows.

This concerns me. I feel as though life has thrown me a huge Zen koan: Find the woman of your dreams, the feeling is mutual, lots of pre-nuptual sex, marry her....and then: pregnancy, the first year of the new baby, and then: menopause. That's a challenge, brother. I've done my best. There is no good solution, except have compassion for all parties involved, including your wife.
Mrs. M
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/31/2010 2:54PM - in reply to belly laugh Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
A New Year's Solution to PNS, for all those LR men kvetching about post nuptial shut-off, here's something to start the new year off in the right way:

Offer your wife a back massage. Get some oil, make sure she's disrobed (you should at some point as well), and start at the neck and shoulders. Work your way down, be very thorough and as you get further down, use the oil as lube. Even after you enter her, keep massaging her back, butt, whatever with your hands! Every woman loves a relaxing massage and that relaxation will help her be more eager about sex. Try it and see if it works!
Mind Runner
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/31/2010 3:08PM - in reply to Mrs. M Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Amen and Amen. Gets me EVERY time.
one or two or
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 12/31/2010 3:57PM - in reply to Mind Runner Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
1428 times but the year isn't over yet. Mrs. one or two or is a very happy woman (or an incredible faker - either way I'll take it(.
The Saint
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff 1/31/2011 9:08AM - in reply to one or two or Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Bump for 4 years.
Want it bad
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 3/6/2011 8:56PM - in reply to whaaaaaaaaat? Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Been married for 5 years with 1 kid and one on the way. Sex has definitely taken a hit. Actually the months of trying to get pregnant were awesome as they provided her with some motivation. Almost wish my sperm were bad. BJs are for B-day and anniversary. When we were dating, it was "suck my dick" and she did whenever and wherever. Depressing as hell.
separated
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 3/6/2011 9:51PM - in reply to Want it bad Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
This thread is fascinating. Something that bugs me..and I realize this is probably just the way it is, but so many of these responses are about what the men should do to get the woman interested. Personally, I'm not interested in charity sex. I want the woman I'm with to want me. I don't want to trick her into wanting me, I just want her to want me. It's hard to get too excited when you think she's just doing it for you. I want her to WANT IT just like me. Charity sex is sad.
yogogo
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 3/6/2011 11:50PM - in reply to Want it bad Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

Want it bad wrote:

Been married for 5 years with 1 kid and one on the way. Sex has definitely taken a hit. Actually the months of trying to get pregnant were awesome as they provided her with some motivation. Almost wish my sperm were bad. BJs are for B-day and anniversary. When we were dating, it was "suck my dick" and she did whenever and wherever. Depressing as hell.


If she wants "autonomy" and the "reproductive choice" of not having sex with you, it's only fair that you have the autonomy and reproductive choice of having sex with other women.

It's unbelievable that some women think they can not have sex with their husbands and still expect them to be faithful.
df345
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 4/8/2011 11:08AM - in reply to yogogo Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Updates?
Retardo Montalban
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 4/8/2011 12:15PM - in reply to separated Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

separated wrote:I want the woman I'm with to want me. I don't want to trick her into wanting me, I just want her to want me. It's hard to get too excited when you think she's just doing it for you. I want her to WANT IT just like me. Charity sex is sad.


Part of a woman's psyche is wanting you = wanting to please you. Physiologically, it is highly likely women won't want sex as often as men do, but the point is if she still loves you and wants to show you by indulging your desires. It's not charity if your wife WANTS to make you happy, even if she's not necessarily in the mood.
william windsor
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 4/30/2011 8:05AM - in reply to need data Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
That was quick.
sore cock
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 4/30/2011 9:28AM - in reply to william windsor Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
120 days into 2011 so far. My count is 475x. You do the math.
Jabbles
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 4/30/2011 9:48AM - in reply to separated Reply | Return to Index | Report Post

separated wrote:

This thread is fascinating. Something that bugs me..and I realize this is probably just the way it is, but so many of these responses are about what the men should do to get the woman interested. Personally, I'm not interested in charity sex. I want the woman I'm with to want me. I don't want to trick her into wanting me, I just want her to want me. It's hard to get too excited when you think she's just doing it for you. I want her to WANT IT just like me. Charity sex is sad.


I can't help but feeling the same way. Mrs. Jabbles and I haven't met yet however I hope she wants me as much as I want her. However, maybe with that is also a responsibility to continue running or swimming or something and eating right so that its easier for her to be attracted. Just my .02$

Great thread though.
Weekly
RE: Post-nuptial shutoff? 5/1/2011 12:36PM - in reply to Jabbles Reply | Return to Index | Report Post
Just had my weekly bone session last night with the pregnant wife. She's 34 weeks. Now it's time to beat that meat until next week.
Pages: | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 | 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 | 18 | 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 | 25 | 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 | 30 | 31 | 32 | 33 | 34 | 35 | 36 | 37 | 38 | 39 | 40 | 41 | 42 | 43 | 44 | 45 | 46 | 47 | 48 | 49 | 50 | 51 | 52 | 53 | 54 | 55 | 56 | 57 | 58 | 59 | 60 | 61 | 62 |