kohlberg wrote:
Flagpole Willy wrote:7) Oh, but if a big flashy ring is important to you, then by all means do it! [sarcasm]
How's the view from that soapbox you're on? Other people have different priorities...so what? Personally, I think that you're priority of penny-pinching your whole life so you can retire a few years earlier is retarded. But it's your choice and it makes you happy. So, that's great.
Obviously xc girl doesn't have to make the same sort of financial compromises that you do, so why would you impose your value system upon her? It's beyond you giving your opinion in response to her question. You made your opinion quite clear with your first post. We get it. So why continue to trash someone elses priorities?
1) Dude, she asked me specifically, so I responded again (with EXCELLENT added material).
2) You don't get it still. She DOES have to make the same financial compromises I do -- it's all based on percentages. If she bases all of her spending decision on the amount of money they make, then she will have a hard time saving as everything is justified due to a decent amount of income (and let's not get carried away here -- under $500,000 is certainly nice income, but she's not Donald Trump, and even he needs to curb his spending. Add in the fact that they pay higher taxes than I do and he has HUGE liability insurance costs that I don't, then their money isn't all that much more than mine that they can be spending a ton. Anyway, my comment to her mostly has to do with the cost of the ring. Doesn't matter if she makes a million dollars a year. A tasteful understated ring is still the best way to go -- in MY OPINION -- an opinion she asked for and got. Waste of money to spend what she's wanting to spend. Not just my opinion either -- the majority opinion on this thread and the majority opinion in life -- bank on that. Wear too much bling and someone will stab or shoot you and take that bling.
Oh, but as long as it's important to her. Sorry brother, but not all things that are "important" to people are things that deserve to be important to them, and yes, I am one to judge, just as all other people who see her ring will do. Just telling her like it is -- I don't make the rules, but I clearly see the rules for what they are. She should spend less than $5,000 and get a nice tasteful ring that's not going to be mistaken for a doorknob.