That was a great post. I could identify with you. My roommate, ABD(abitdifferent) asked me to tell his "friends" on this site that he won't be posting for a while. Some of the posts got him kind of worked up. I thought posting would be fun for him but it wasn't the best idea.
I know ABD will read this but I think he will agree with some of what I say. ABD is a great roommate but at first we both had a couple of very tough months. Some one asked if you should tell someone he has AS. Thats a heavy load! I was the one who told ABD that doctors don't know everything and that we can't be certain of anything. I also suggested he not tell anyone around the dorm. That said, the AS term really helped me and we were able to work some things out. You must know about those problems having shared a room with your brother for 12 years. The first couple of months I was kind of nasty and angry. As a freshman I didn't get the perfect roommate OI wanted but neither did ABD. We did better when we posted some simple rules. I have no guests after 9:00, I never touch his stuff, and I try and warn him about changes or visitors. Its OK that I have my own friends and dinner group, He doesn't report me or my friends if we break dorm rules, If he's mad he goes for a run.
I talked to my dad a lot and he explained to both of us that roommates look out for each other, are nice to each other but are not responsible for each other. That freed me a lot and I don't have to feel guilty about things. ABD is cool with that now.
Tomorrow we are going to the, gulp, running club. ABD usually goes home every weekend but is going to try staying. I'll have to workout the visitation rules for weekends.
I thought my freshman experience was just going to be passing my courses and getting some tail. This is a trip.