Sagarin,
As someone who has suffered from CFIDS/ME for 28 years now (since age 16), I am very sorry for you. Like I am for anyone who suffers from this terrible illness. I had no idea.
I have always said (since 18 yrs old) that the only way progress will ever be made is when doctors get sick with the disease, because other doctors will be less prone to dismiss their woes as depression. Also, they have knowledge about what to check for and what not to, and what kinds of things it could possibly be. Having doctors and researchers have their kids or spouses having ME will never be enough motivation to develop treatment. It is hard to watch someone wither away and miss out on life, but when you have spent 30 years going to school only to get so sick that you can't take work and can't take care of your family and you have no life, that is when you get the motivation to solve something.
It sounds like you are very knowledgeable about CFS, I should email you sometime and get some tips from you.