nope wrote:
I'm not a kid. I'm 28.
There's a lot of jerks on here, and you're one of them. You know, I thought even jerks had boundaries, but then someone like you makes assumptions and accusations about a person who died from ovarian cancer that you don't even know. If I ever met you in real life, I would beat the sh!t out of you for what you said even if it meant I got hurt in the process. I really hate people like you.
Being a kid is less to do with age and more with maturity. Also, 28 is a kid by many peoples definitions.
Anyway, I wasn't making assumptions or accusations about your mom. I'm sure she was a wonderful woman, no sarcasm I promise.
Here is what I was trying to say. Your mom died of a horrible disease, that is a tragedy. About 70% of people who get this disease do so because of some environmental influence. In some cases that influence may have been an STD. But here's the thing, just because the majority of people with this disease "did something" that may have contributed to it, there is still a large portion who did nothing. What I was trying to say, is that there is a very good chance your mom could have gotten cancer without doing anything wrong.
Also, even IF it was caused by an STD, that doesn't make your mom a bad person. It doesn't really matter what caused it, it happened, and that sucks.
My grandmother died of ovarian cancer. She was a wonderful woman by all accounts. I've never met anyone who could say anything remotely negative about her. She was a mother of five and a long standing active member of the local Christian church.
Was her cancer just sh*t luck in the genetic lottery, or was it because she fooled around with some guy when she was 19 in college (yes, my grandmother went to college). I don't really care. If she made a mistake when she was young, that doesn't change the person she was her whole life.
It's the same with your mom. Maybe she had an STD, maybe not. You will likely never know, and I definitely will never know. Who cares, it doesn't change who she was.