Proper way to spank your children?

I solved the spanking problem by substituting 400's. Seriously. If my kids do not listen to reason then I drive them down to the track and make them run as many as they have earned.

I figure they might as well get fast if they are going to be little devils.

Sir Lance-alot wrote:

You were drinking beer and not watching your 3 year old who almost got killed because of your negligence and you "consider it more of a failure on my part than hers" ?? That's very big of you.

And then spanking her got through to here to not do that again? Great. If that worked so well, I can only conclude that.........

Maybe someone should kicked your ass so YOU DIDN'T DO SOMETHING SO STUPID AS DRINKING AND IGNORING YOUR KID AGAIN???

Right?

Right!

Still, she needs to know not to run into the street.

I cannot tell if you are kidding with your post, but have you never had a beer outside with your friends as your kids are playing in the yard?

i used to get the belt a lot from my mom. my dad never spanked me or hit me. my mom is a white trash piece of crap.

Spanked my son once when he was 5 and it still bothers me every day. I'm sure he's forgotten the whole thing...probably not, I'm just hoping he has. Remembering the look of fear and betrayal on his face when I did it tears me up. My kids are as well behaved as you could ever ask and one brief spank is all they ever received. It's not necessary to enforce good behavior, and you'll probably end up hating yourself for doing it.

Waterboarding Lite?

another take wrote:

I didn't like the idea of spanking my kids, but wanted to scare them out of bad behavior. I had this thought a few years back, tried it, and it works for me. YMMV.

Basically, if one of my kids isn't listening or is acting out, I wait until they have completely dropped their guard and are at the bottom of an exhale, then I clasp my hands over their mouth and nose so they can't get an inhale. Before they panic completely, I sternly and calmly explain why their behavior is wrong. I turn up the volume of my rant as they start to flail and freak out, then release and ignore them for 25 minutes while it sets in.

Works for me, and isn't spanking!

delicate little frower wrote:

Colonial wrote:

Stellar program that worked with my kids. Never laid a finger on them, didn't psychologically abuse them and they are well-adjusted with a terrific sense of right and wrong.

I made judicious use of spanking with my kids, and they are well adjusted with a terrific sense of right and wrong.

Like they'd tell you whether they're into bondage, dom/sub, and S&M?

If you must resort to spanking, then you haven't developed the parental skills necessary to raise children. Spanking is used when parents are either angry, abusive, or don't have the intellect to discipline their children in a positive manner.

Spanking is for the uneducated moron who has kids they aren't equipped to raise. Raised in a family of 6, no spanking. My parents set very good examples of how to discipline. I used many of their techniques on my own children and never even considered abusing my kids as a form of punishment. I mean, seriously, hitting a child to teach them a lesson? What kind of lesson are you teaching? Most kids want to do the right thing, want to please their parents if they think their parents love and respect them, and feel bad/guilty when they either make a mistake or intentionally disobey.

If beatings are so great, then why don't we beat adults that make a mistake? I mean, hey, adults have much more life experience so they should have learned to be perfect, right? Therefore, for all those parents out there that believe in spanking their children, then everytime they make a mistake, I recommend a belt beating.

MadRunner wrote:

Ever heard of Love and Logic? It works and you don't have to abuse your child.

If you don't think a 5 year old can understand reason, then you don't understand children.

re: love & logic

"One of the most effective strategies involves going on strike and negotiating for better parental working conditions. When your child asks for privileges, experiment with saying, “This is so sad, I do those sorts of things for people who treat me with respect.”

That's from the website. All I can say is 'wow'. I do think a 5 year old can understand 5 year old reasoning, but if the above quote typifies the logic of Love & Logic I'm not having it. By no means do I "negotiate" away my responsibility to manage my family. Jeez, who wrote this tripe? I especially like the "I love you too much to argue..."

The post about removing the child from the situation, discussing with them prior to and after punishment, reassuring them of your continued love, and judicious use is correct for those who choose to use that form of parenting.

No way dude.

I always found spanking to be highly effective. I spanked my kids whenever they needed it. I also spank by aging parents who really don't have the strength to resist. They also have partially lost their mental faculties so they are emotionally and logically similar to children anyway. I find that spanking them is the only effective way to modify their behavior.

I also spank my wife when she's out of line. I know, I know, all you pansy boys out there will tell me how that is chauvinistic and stopped being appropriate a hundred years ago, yada, yada, yada. Spare me, OK? The fact is that females are not always rational and they need to be properly disciplined at times. Human nature hasn't changed just because of what is now politically correct. So, yeah I find spanking my wife to be very effective, but really only when she is totally out of line.

The only problem that I have had with this more traditional approach was when I was in court and this PC judge called it "beating" rather than spanking. I explained that it was only on the butt, only with a bare hand, and always done with love and the child's/wife's/parent's best interest in mind. Still the idiot judge claimed not to see the difference. WTF?

Normally a Running Poster wrote:

Still, she needs to know not to run into the street.

I cannot tell if you are kidding with your post, but have you never had a beer outside with your friends as your kids are playing in the yard?

So you should make sure to teach her that before feeling complacent enough to direct your attention away from her and towards your little brewski broski party.

I have to admit this thread is tl;dr. For those that don't know that means "too long, did not read." Those types of abbreviations, accompanied by that lack of patience is VERY typical of "Generation Y." As a 26 year old man, I am a member of Generation Y, and hence that is why I lack both the patience to read this entire thread, and to write out "too long, did not read." The lack of discipline in my generation is what is ruining the USA, the world, and everyone under the age of 30. The debt and mortgage crises are PERFECT examples.

So, to solve the problem, I am dedicated to spanking my children and I am SHOCKED AND APPALLED that there are people that are *against* spanking, what the f*ck? have you ever met a 6 year old boy? Not spanking him creates a self-indulgent, thrill-seeking @sshole like me at 26.

As for actual technique, as someone else said, it is very natural once you do it, the butt is padded and seems made for that type of discipline. No one technique works, it all varies with age, size, and severity of the offense. A 3-year old will require a spanking only in the most severe cases of misbehavior and it will be pretty minor. On the other hand, if your 10 year old is back-talking, a couple firm smacks should do the trick. If you follow the plan, you wont even have to worry about physical discipline when they get to 17 because they will be obedient.

A final note, I find it *EXTREMELY* ironic that someone pointed out the lack of cognitive development of children as an argument against spanking?!? That is exactly WHY you need to spank, the lack of cognitive development of children makes attenuated cause/effect patterns indiscernible to children, so your role as a parent is to un-attenuate that link. Kids do not realize that things like say, playing with fire, could potentially kill him and his entire family, especially if it only happens in 1/1000000 cases, so to un-attenuate the link and act prophylactic-ly, if you catch him playing with fire, whoop that @ss!

Normally a Running Poster wrote:

Sir Lance-alot wrote:

You were drinking beer and not watching your 3 year old who almost got killed because of your negligence and you "consider it more of a failure on my part than hers" ?? That's very big of you.

And then spanking her got through to here to not do that again? Great. If that worked so well, I can only conclude that.........

Maybe someone should kicked your ass so YOU DIDN'T DO SOMETHING SO STUPID AS DRINKING AND IGNORING YOUR KID AGAIN???

Right?

Right!

Still, she needs to know not to run into the street.

I cannot tell if you are kidding with your post, but have you never had a beer outside with your friends as your kids are playing in the yard?

Either he's serious or he's very consistent with his trolling/joking. This is who Sir Lance is. Either he's a troll consistent in his persona or a very angry, bitter man. I like to think the former, it makes his posts entertaining.

no to spanking wrote:

If beatings are so great, then why don't we beat adults that make a mistake? I mean, hey, adults have much more life experience so they should have learned to be perfect, right? Therefore, for all those parents out there that believe in spanking their children, then everytime they make a mistake, I recommend a belt beating.

^^^^^^ are you freaking kidding me?? Have you ever heard of the criminal justice system? If an adult behaves bad enough we KILL him. And even if you are just in prison (or really any time that you are interacting with a police officer) if you do not IMMEDIATELY comply with an order, they will freaking beat you senseless with a club.

Mr. Falcon wrote:

So you should make sure to teach her that before feeling complacent enough to direct your attention away from her and towards your little brewski broski party.

Hahahahahaha

You don't have kids, do you?

For the record, I have an eight year old and haven't spanked him in about three years. You're assuming that I immediately grab him and in a fit of rage pummel him to the ground jail-beat-down style.

Although children do lack cognitive development, once they get to a certain age you 1)calmly explain why they got punished, 2)tell them you love them. Try getting "mutual respect and trust" from a four year old. You sound like the parent you lets their kid run crazy around the grocery store while every ten minutes saying gently: "Johnny, quit climbing on top of the freezer. Come down now, I mean it." "Johnny, quit busting the ketchup bottles on the floor you're making a big mess. Any more and you'll get a five minute time out."

As someone else posted, sometimes a spank is necessary. I'm glad you have a teenager that is respectful and hard working; no one is advocating whipping seventeen year olds with a cat of nine tails, are they?

To make your spanking reach the desired result you must get your child full naked if the mistake is repeated spank him in front of someone the third time you can make your spanked a video and put it on social media and don't forget to threat him before doing so

You seriously registered a username for that?

What's the problem??

Julia wrote:

What's the problem??

Nothing, pedophile.