will my child hate me if I send him to boarding school?

I became one in NY State- Although there is no court proceeding in New York to have a young person declared an Emancipated Minor, New York Law recognizes the status of emancipation and the rights of emancipated minors. To determine whether a young person is emancipated, the following factors are critical:

The youth must be living apart from his/her parents;

The youth must be self supporting (may be receiving public benefits or child support if required by court order);

The youth is not in need/receipt of foster care;

The youth is living beyond the custody and control of the parent;

The youth is over the age of 16.

So in NYS if yomammy pays for the boarding school you're a minor until your 18th B'day or until you pay the bills.

Today's video over internet and other electronica make the abandonment issue vastly different than it was when travel was involves and pen and ink took a week or more roundtrip. Sometimes it's better for the child to be out of a hostile environment that be with their birth parents. diffacult but true.

if you love someone set them free if they return it's ment to be

I know someone who was sent overseas to boarding school and had no physical contact with either of her divorced parents from when she was 12 until she was 19. When she came home at 19 that was the last contact she has had with them-30 something years have past now and still no effort on either side-. I don't know if she can get in legal trouble bur she just lists them as dead using her 19th birthday as the date.

mama66 wrote:

I feel he would blossom into a great guy. .

Extremely unlikely. I don't know of a single boy who blossomed into anything other than a domineering SOB even under the most loving conditions.

It's acceptable rejection. Just like sending your kids to sleep away camp all summer starting at 8 years old.

Thanks all for the comments.

Boarding school is the cruelest thing you can do to a child. The kids I went to college with who were sent to boarding schools all had that neglected, abused, deathly look about them. We never hired a baby sitter and only let my mother, sisters, and MIL watch our children who are now in their thirties. Take your son's video games away and lock them up in the closet. Buy him a skate board, a bicycle, a padlock, and chain. He'll have no choice but to go outside and learn how to live in this world.