Thanks, all. I appreciate everyone's comments.
For the record, I do not criticize any parents for their choices, whether it's daycare, a nanny or staying at home.
With my daughter I will try daycare this week again and see if things get better. At most, she will be spending 20h/week (3 days) and the rest she will be with me or my wife. Last year, I didn't make a lot because I was with her all the time, so I was hoping I could work more this year with her at daycare part-time. If it doesn't work, we will do with less. We are not big spenders anyway.